Anger issues

[usmc3521]

I disagree (keep in mind I was a youth counselor for the state of ohio) unless you are diagnosed with some disorder( manic depressive/nut job/ mpdo) talking to some stranger about your immaturitys is going to do what? How are they going to help you? Are they going to make your crzy GF not so crazy? Are they going to pay your late bills or make you more mature? NO

Lots of young men, including me have been through very similar scenarios bro, and guess what I chose to rise above it, drop all the negative **** around me and move fprward in my life being the best that I can be. You are a Marine, you learned to adapt, overcome and tackle things. You have to have that mentality in your civilian life.

Unless you drop all the negative crap around you including women and focus on yourself and your life either as a Marine or a civilian, no amount of talking to the wizard is going to do anything. Once you are sound in all aspects that you want to be stable in, then worry about girls and crap.

It may sound like hard words but my plan and "tough love" mentality has worked for hundreds of youth and family I have counseled. They come to me with issues, we determine that they do not have a medical/mental issue. We tell them to man up and be responsbile for their lives and it works.

Whatever you choose be stong Marine and FOCUS. You will come out ahead.

[usmc3521]

ps sorry about my grammer and sp, kind of buys at work but want to get my 2 cents in, so Im tryng my best to speed type lol

[CombatDisburser]

thank you all for the support I just wanted to know if there was anyone else out there that is possibly experiencing this and thank you for showing me your side of the story. I believe everything will work out and I have high hopes for the future. Thank you once again for all the help.

[usmc3521]

thats the way to think Marine. Things will work out. There are always crappy times but the positive and the strong survive. S/F

[GT6238]

I used to lose my cool at the drop of a hat, or word, but once I talked to my doc, he prescribed "Happy Pills." That's what he really called them. Now, I just sort of smile and sit back. The wife thinks this is great.

[egbutler1]

I am stationed at Camp Lejeune, but the thing is this all started at work, its because im constantly treated like I am 2 years old and its really starting to bother me, and in between the time that my fiance and I were broken up I ended up getting married to a stripper out here in jacksonville, nc. I made some bad decisions in my past and I am thinking I resent myself for that and its starting to cause anger problems with myself, and ontop of that it has been stressful trying to make everything ok with the money im pulling in when my office screwed me out of my BAS for the entire time I was married, which caused me to be able to save no money. I did not come on here for relationship advice, I know what I am doing and the reason it was on and off for 6 years was because of her dad in the hospital in tennessee and I am from Idaho which is where she was so we decided to split so that she could focus on him for the moment. Please I just need to know if this is something anyone else has experienced or if it is just me? Im set up to go see a counselor on thursday to talk some of this out. I am hoping this works thank you for the help

I experienced it daily but than again I was an 0311 and went to war and saw some nasty **** and lost good friends in Iraq so uh sounds to me like a normal reaction to stress.

[Sgt Leprechaun]

EG, that was actually the first thing I thought as well. Brother, some or many of us have been there. Things DO get better, it just takes time.

And seeing a counselor isn't all bad. Mine helped me considerably, and I'm a mean, nasty, tired old SOB with 'anger' issues over 9/11 and other crap. And it WAS (and is) a help.

[Osotogary]

Thanks to all of you. This thread was much needed. It's like the "other conflict" after the conflict. It takes balls to recognize a behavior that you may not be comfortable talking about, let alone asking for advise on. If there are professional resources available, part of an available benefits package, exercise your option to use them. I know of one such situation...very close to home.
Briefly, first and foremost ,there was the reluctance to admit, then a slight self acknowledgement that something wasn't right, then an initial reach out for help, then a built in defense for any suggested treatment, then, after time, a realization, without any doubt, that a problem exists and finally, the positive step to seek and participate in the benefits available. Recovery stage? I don't know that as yet but the wheels to recovery were placed in motion the very moment that there was a self acknowledged problem and an earnest effort to seek help. That takes flat out guts, be you a Marine or not a Marine. Prayers, well wishes and support to those fighting more than one war at a time.

[MontanaDevilDog]

thank you all for the support I just wanted to know if there was anyone else out there that is possibly experiencing this and thank you for showing me your side of the story. I believe everything will work out and I have high hopes for the future. Thank you once again for all the help.

Hey Marine. You are not alone in this. I have a very good idea as to what you are going through, because I am in the process of dealing with some very similar issues myself. While some of my issues are anger related, they are more combat related from the result of 2 deployments, as well as the death of one of my closest friends. But yet because of the way I am feeling, I lately too have been finding myself having a lot more outbursts of anger.

I have severe PTSD and nightmares. I am only able to get to sleep with the help of Ambien, otherwise I just lie in bed all night awake. My girlfriend and I have been together for just over 3 and a half years now. Sadly, she has often been on the receiving end of some of my anger outbursts, and I am definitely not proud of that. Never physical, just verbal. Like you and your fiance, our relationship and our sex life have suffered tremendously. I really don't even know how we are still together sometimes in all honesty. Anyway, I too had to go to my command about everything I've been going through. The counselors really will help, I promise you, even if its just a start. I broke down into tears when I went for the first time, and if by chance you do as well, there is nothing wrong with that. Also, as you are facing deployment, make sure you stay in touch with Mental Health as much as possible before you go, while your there if at all possible, and most importantly when you get back.

I am currently in the process of being Medically discharged from the Corps because of my issues, and I will probably be facing many more long painful visits to the Psych ward for quite a few years to come. While I'm still not 100% happy about it, I also realize that my future is still bright, and that things will hopefully work out with time. I really hope things work out for you, and I really do wish you the best. Please stay safe bro.

SEMPER FIDELIS