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01-07-10, 12:13 PM #46
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01-07-10, 12:17 PM #47
There is a very fine line between child abuse and spanking, and that line is getting finer and finer as the years go by.
GSEMarine94- The college text book I had for this child psychology class was: Child Development by Laura E. Berk (2006). I also had to do research on the subject for a class assignment, and all credible studies that I stumbled upon stated condemned corporal punishment. It is obsolete and there are better ways to be a good parent.
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01-07-10, 12:24 PM #48
I was spanked and hit plenty of times growing up. But I don't believe in that form of punishment and I will never let it be done to my kid. If someone ever tried to lay a hand on my kid, I would kill them.
That doesn't mean that my kid's is going to grow up soft, they will still be punished. I expect my kid to get in fights with other kids and do whatever kids do. They just won't have an adult striking them- I won't have it.
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01-07-10, 12:26 PM #49
So what are you going to do when your 2 year old reaches for that hot stove?
Over and over and over and over
Over and over and over and over
Over and over and over and over
Over and over and over and over
Over and over and over and over
Over and over and over and over
Over and over and over and over
Keep telling him "no"?
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01-07-10, 12:35 PM #50
My brother spouted that "I will never spank my kid" stuff too.....Until his kid turned four and was COMPLETELY off the chain and out of control.........
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01-07-10, 12:39 PM #51
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01-07-10, 12:41 PM #52
Giveen: I would warn him of the consequences (getting burned), but I would not stop him. He gets burned, oh well, should've listened to mommy.
Now if it's something where he could get seriously injured, such as tipping over a pot of boiling water on himself, then I would stop him from doing it, yell at him, and make sure he understands what could've happened. If he does attempt it once again, I would think up some sort of punishment, sending him to his room or something.
This happened to me once when I was little. My brother tried to get me to touch the burning stove, and my Grandma just told me of the consecquences but didn't stop me. I learned my lesson the hard way, and I also learned to listen to my Grandma when she told me not to do something.
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01-07-10, 12:44 PM #53
I guess if you read it in a text book, it must be true, huh? There is more liberal agenda in "psychology" than you can shake a stick at.
Like I said, wait till you're a parent. All the studies in the world won't hold a candle to when you actually experience what child raising is about. Arguing beforehand is like trying to explain the concept of burning fire to someone who has never seen it but only read about it.
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01-07-10, 12:47 PM #54
So you would yell at him, which would show that you are angry and there will not be any consequence from you for his actions. Sure the stove will hurt for a short time, but he will know all you will do is yell and take something away for a short time. No biggie.
Working in childrens ministry I can tell you which kids are spanked out of love and which ones are yelled at or ignored. The yelling and ignoring is a greater disservice to little Johnny than the spanking.
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01-07-10, 12:49 PM #55
Let's agree to disagree. I'm not going to change your mind, and you're not going to change mine.
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01-07-10, 12:52 PM #56
And that may work....and it may not.
Children are extremely stubborn and want their way.
My 9 month old is very set on pulling down my VCR/DVD player/Wii down on his head.
We have said no multiple times, lightly smacked his hands when he reaches for it, moved him to a different room, distracted him with toys and guess what?
2 seconds later he is going for it again.
So you may end up with a darling little angel who is a perfect child. Mostly likely you will get a real child who wants his way.
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01-07-10, 12:54 PM #57
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01-07-10, 12:57 PM #58
Yeah, now THAT is child abuse.
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01-07-10, 01:04 PM #59
You hit the nail on the head with that one.
I have seen parents do nothing but yell at their kids. What do the kids do?????? Yell back. To them that is the way things work as far as they know. They will grow up yelling because that is the way they were taught.
A smack across the rump (when needed) sends the message that they were wrong and that stinging will go away shortly. A little pain never hurt anyone. Just used restraint when it comes to dealing out punishment.
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01-07-10, 01:06 PM #60
RI: That's learning by direct experience.
You spank a kid, it may not necessarily teach them the effects of the action (getting burned), it will just teach them not to do it when an adult it around (not get caught). You let the kid find out for himself why he shouldn't touch the hot stove, then it doesn't matter if an adult is around or not, the kid is not going to touch it again.
It's not about pain, it's about trusting the parent. Spanking them probably won't develop trust, but letting them learn on their own and warning them of their actions will make them realize that you are acting in their best interest.
Giveen- My kid will be a little angel.
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