Girlfriend before boot camp

[tylerreel]

last weekend i hooked up with a girl and asked her out, i like her, but thts it, not love or anything, i leave for bootcamp in June. My mind is tellib me to break up with her, becasue i know its not gonna last boot camp and all the other training, so i did, but now i feel bad because shes upset not, did i do the right thing? has anyone else done this?

[SoonToBe3521]

If she's still there waiting for you when you get back, get your girl. If she's not, wasn't meant to be. Do not go into bootcamp thinking about her though, keep your focus in the right place. Right now, it may seem mean, but she's not your priority.

[Taviah]

Seeing if your girl can stay faithful after 13weeks apart would have been a good test to see if she was worth staying with.

That being said if you don't have strong feelings for her anyway then staying with her when she has those feelings for you just because she feels bad would be wrong and unfair for her.

[MunkyVsRobot]

Id say waste of time bro. You are 17 still young unless you are considering VERY highly of marrying this girl id hit the eject button before you go to MCRD and wait to meet some one either in fleet or after your enlistment.

You are going to be gone for 3 months for boot camp, then youll be back for 10 days then depending on your MOS youll go either to ITB or MCT. If you are non infantry after that month of MCT you go to your MOS school then off to fleet.

So unless you can get stationed somewhere in or around FLA I'd say eject.

[Honcho1010]

Dude last weekend? Let her go before you actually care about her. Keep the friendship, I'm sure you'll be looking for a good time after boot camp. My girlfriend just broke up with me, after a year and half. im sure boot camp had something to do with it.

[PooleeGewarges]

How about you fill in your profile. Where is your recruiters information? Sgt. Leprechaun will send in the helicopters if you do not fill in your profile fully.

Also, correct grammar is a must. You are not texting in a Marine Corps forum.

[IHaveEGA843]

Last weekend? Seriously?

You should've kept her as a pen pal though.

[Taviah]

Breaking up with a girl and staying friends is like your dog dying and your mom saying you can keep it.... I know, I've done it a few times, but really I am a romantic and only know how to treat a girl how she should be treated even if it drives her away (women like to be treated badly until they are totally head over heals). Do what is right, not what is logical.

[IHaveEGA843]

^Bro it was last weekend......seriously theres no time in it for them to even get to know each other really.

If you said 6 mnths-yr then my answer would be different but thats like you meeting the best looking woman you've ever gotten and trying to hold on to her by writing letters. Trust me bro it will NOT work because the AFFECTION and ATTENTION factor is not there. If she doesn't have real DEEP FEELINGS for him and doesn't become selfish in HER NEEDS AND WANTS then it will work. I'd said keep her as a friend though then after you've finished majority of your training THEN pursue the relationship and grow to know each other.

[Taviah]

^Bro it was last weekend......seriously theres no time in it for them to even get to know each other really.

If you said 6 mnths-yr then my answer would be different but thats like you meeting the best looking woman you've ever gotten and trying to hold on to her by writing letters. Trust me bro it will NOT work because the AFFECTION and ATTENTION factor is not there. If she doesn't have real DEEP FEELINGS for him and doesn't become selfish in HER NEEDS AND WANTS then it will work. I'd said keep her as a friend though then after you've finished majority of your training THEN pursue the relationship and grow to know each other.

I might be old fashion in that sense. Hell, I love to party more than most...A lot more than most. Yet I would never ask a girl out that I didn't already know for a while and could see myself having children with. The girl I want right now I've known for at least 2 years.

[IHaveEGA843]

Well build that relationship then if you think its worth it. I'm sure this guy hasn't done what you've done but you really have to find a understanding female who will put aside her wants to know her potential/current bf is going to better himself for the outlook of them or just going to bootcamp for the next 13 weeks.

Most women WILL NOT see that and will go with the next man approaching her. It's rare to find a woman like that and I will say my lady is like that. See knows I want this and I'm going to do it but knows the rewards of this once I've completed it.

[achilles097]

last weekend i hooked up with a girl and asked her out, i like her, but thts it, not love or anything, i leave for bootcamp in June. My mind is tellib me to break up with her, becasue i know its not gonna last boot camp and all the other training, so i did, but now i feel bad because shes upset not, did i do the right thing? has anyone else done this?

In my POV, i think you did the right thing. I also agree with Taviah, that whole friends after dating doesn't work. Been there done that. You look at her and some feelings rush back, you know it, she knows it, normally it's just plain awkward. That whole "being friends" ... That's basically so that the dumper doesn't feel bad. It's just plain moving on. You're looking at 5+ months of training (MCRD + SOI and/or MOS school) without that girl.

[Domc]

I am going to be straight up about this but if you're posting on a forum about a girl you met last weekend is just a tad bit not smart (trying to avoid helicopters here forgive my wording) especially on a forum about the Marine Corps.

It shows that you are not mature in a sense of age wise because you are falling for girls just from "hooking up", also asking a girl out doesn't and should not mean "were together now" unless you flat out just said "will you be my girlfriend?"

It also shows that your priorities aren't straight, your main focus should be boot camp and not some girl you are going to end up worrying about if she didnt write you and wondering if Jodie stole her from you. Check the ask a marine section or even google it most relationships don't last through boot camp if they weren't going strong already.

Next time I would recommend posting this as a status update on Facebook that seems more if a fitting place for this question.

[Taviah]

In my POV, i think you did the right thing. I also agree with Taviah, that whole friends after dating doesn't work. Been there done that. You look at her and some feelings rush back, you know it, she knows it, normally it's just plain awkward. That whole "being friends" ... That's basically so that the dumper doesn't feel bad. It's just plain moving on. You're looking at 5+ months of training (MCRD + SOI and/or MOS school) without that girl.

I have to say (since you're agreeing with me) that I don't agree with my advise, will always give it the same but never follow it. Yeah, that is how I believe but time and time again I have stayed friends with my exes and been completely happy and OK with it. I have never in my life been able to find a person that I can possibly hate (besides political) I have a tendency to love whoever I am with unconditionally whether I continue to be with them or not.

[DudefromDiego]

Dude, let her go. Doesn't seem like you have been together that long, and while it may seem like it is meant to be, all relationships seem to start off like that. Example: I had a girl and we were together for about 3 1/2 years. I went to every single one of her soccer matches (even traveled out to Colorado to root her on) and the minute she realizes I'm going to be leaving in June of 11' (at the time, my ship date has since changed) she starts asking what I'm doing with my life, and that I clearly don't care enough about her if I am willing to go away for X amount of time. It struck a nerve. I mean really? I don't need somebody who will likely hook up with jody while I am getting "motivated" in boot camp. I did care about her, but this was something I wanted to do, and she didn't support it. So I said later and we split. You my friend can easily dump her. You need to get some priorities, and babes will always be there. The last thing you need in boot camp is wondering if your woman is catching the meat train from jody.