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xero
07-15-08, 11:23 AM
i am 17 and have one more year of high school left. I plan on joining the Marine Corps, I have been talking to a recruiter and he says because i plan on joining that i should DEP that if i DEP it will give me a super small taste of what the CORPS is all about and that if i do DEP in that is what will guarantee that will get me the job i want in the CORPS. I told this to my father and he disagrees so strongly that he is not willing to even talk to my recruiter. How do i go about talking my dad into just meeting with the recruiter and if you can please give me more info on the DEP.

AL49BGN
07-15-08, 11:58 AM
Just tell your father how you feel.If he is still unwilling to be supportive then just wait until you are 18 yrs old.By then it wouldn't matter if he approved or not.As far as the DEP goes it would give you a headstart and depending on your MOS a better chance of getting the MOS you want.When it comes down to it everyone goes into DEP you do not ship out the day you join.
Just remember if you can't enlist now it isn't the end of the world just stay motivated and if you really wish to earn the Title of Marine and you work hard then great things will happen.Your Dad is just worried like any parent would be.I enlisted in the 80s and things are probably different now but the DEP really helped me get ready and I also got two classmates to join so I was a PFC upon graduation from Bootcamp
Good luck and remember to never give up.

xero
07-17-08, 10:42 AM
Well i did try talking to my dad but i dont he took me serious, so i got the recruiter to come over on a random day and just talk to my dad hopefully he will take me more serious when it some to my future. But i understand it not the end of the world and i could wait another year.

NicholasITALY
07-23-08, 03:59 PM
Well i did try talking to my dad but i dont he took me serious, so i got the recruiter to come over on a random day and just talk to my dad hopefully he will take me more serious when it some to my future. But i understand it not the end of the world and i could wait another year.

I have to wait 3 more years :marine:

Leeson222
04-08-09, 04:07 PM
Hey man i know exactly what your going through. i started looking into the Marine Corps when i was 17. i finally convinced my mom to go in an talk to my recruiter but she still didnt approve of this. she wanted me to go to college and try the real world out thinking i was to young an didnt know what i was doing. i started going to the PT ever thursday night an was doing really well. my recruiter an the rest at the office soon became good friends an i made my decision i wanted to sign up. after i turned 18 i went to MEPS and signed the papers after i said the oath i felt really good! i knew i made the right decision. i leave 20090921 an i cant wait to leave!! now my mom and i have talked about it and now she is very supporting along with the rest of my family. even though your family wont like your decision its your choice an i have a feeling they will support you in it. good luck man an i suggest join the DEP get you ready physically an mentally for boot!!

JMReynolds111
04-20-09, 05:50 PM
Hey bro, let me give you a heads up and some motivation. I begged my parents to sign me up when i was 17, and they refused. They had false hope in me and never making it in. My step dad an i got into fights, face to face and he treats me like sh** he want's to make fun of the Corps every time he can. Saying it's just a bunch of stuck up gay men.

I told him up front to F*** off and don't show up to my graduation, and now every time I here a remark about it, it's more motivation for me because for what I'm going to do and all the men and women who have joined in any armed services gives him the right to speak like that.

Bro it's your life make the best of it I feel what your going through.

PS. Have your recruiter surprise your parents at the front door for face to face conversation, you'll be amazed of the results.


Good Luck

JonH
04-20-09, 06:24 PM
If you still can't get your parents permission to DEP in, you should just stay in contact with your recruiter and go to all the poolee events and PT with them. A lot of the underage high school kids that work out at the RS stations I train with aren't even DEP'ed in yet- they're just staying motivated until they turn of age and can finally sign on their own. It'll be like being in the DEP, but just longer.

Hendrix
04-25-09, 11:02 AM
I have to wait 3 more years :marine:

Haha, I feel your pain. Luckily, my father supports the decision to join. However, he expects me to go to college. The one problem I have with this is that we don't have the money and I don't want to be in debt at 18, and that I just feel that college isn't for me.

And Xero, even if your parents don't let you DEP in, still maintain a relationship with your recruiter and PT with him and the poolees as much as you can.

Capital M
05-12-09, 04:59 PM
Haha, I feel your pain. Luckily, my father supports the decision to join. However, he expects me to go to college. The one problem I have with this is that we don't have the money and I don't want to be in debt at 18, and that I just feel that college isn't for me.

And Xero, even if your parents don't let you DEP in, still maintain a relationship with your recruiter and PT with him and the poolees as much as you can.





debt sucks. hard.

Rocky C
05-12-09, 05:12 PM
If I were you I would ask your Recruiter to borrow a good Moto Video of the Great aspects of my Beloved Marine Corps and sit down with a Big bowl of popcorn, just you and your Dad and don't speak, just watch it the 2 of you. You'll be spending quality time with him and at the end of the DVD, look at your Dad, I'm positive he will have some tears in his eyes and at that moment you will know that you are "Good to Go'
Semper Fi Young One,

Rocky

Capital M
05-12-09, 10:01 PM
Haha, I feel your pain. Luckily, my father supports the decision to join. However, he expects me to go to college. The one problem I have with this is that we don't have the money and I don't want to be in debt at 18, and that I just feel that college isn't for me.

And Xero, even if your parents don't let you DEP in, still maintain a relationship with your recruiter and PT with him and the poolees as much as you can.





debt sucks. hard.

JWDevilDog
05-13-09, 03:43 AM
I agree with RhodeIsland. The idea is to make your dad motivated about it. Remind him of what the Marine Corps does and has done for this country. That is the best approach.

And I agree with having your recruiter talk to him, maybe even surprise him at the door. Although that may very well go horribly for you later. But just make sure your recruiter knows what he's dealing with. It is a recruiter's job to win people over, and to be persuasive. I say let him do his job with your father.

JasonFMX
05-17-09, 12:19 AM
My Mom and Dad weren't too keen on the idea either. My Dad came around a little easier, but my Mom took some serious convincing. She talked to the recruiters and said she will only sign if they promise they won't send me to some third world hell hole. LOL
He said "Ma'am, that's what the Marine Corp does...send people to third world hell holes"

She eventually came around and signed, but not like it would have made much of a difference, that was in November of '98, and I turned 18 in January of '99. So I could have just waited two months at that time...but I started working her months earlier.

Wyoming
05-17-09, 12:56 AM
My Mom and Dad weren't too keen on the idea either. My Dad came around a little easier, but my Mom took some serious convincing. She talked to the recruiters and said she will only sign if they promise they won't send me to some third world hell hole. LOL
He said "Ma'am, that's what the Marine Corp does...send people to third world hell holes"

She eventually came around and signed, but not like it would have made much of a difference, that was in November of '98, and I turned 18 in January of '99. So I could have just waited two months at that time...but I started working her months earlier.

So what happened?

JasonFMX
05-17-09, 11:19 PM
She signed eventually.

DEPdog2009
05-17-09, 11:30 PM
My parents were like WTF? at first then about two days later they were like "I think its good for you" and stuff. Stay motivated guys. Always think of the prize ahead, that is becoming a Marine. It WILL happen if your serious enough about it. Good luck to all Poolees!!

93F22A6
04-16-10, 02:52 PM
Just sit down with him with some info you get with the recruiter and have a serious talk about it. My parents support me it just took a little explaining to my mom that I was serious and to my dad that I wanted to Enlist early in the DEP. (I sign in June, can't wait, then roughly a yr of preparing) Main thing is see if they will talk to the recuirter with you, you would not belive how much it helps. They walk in with one mind set and come out with a totally different mind set. Another thing is see if the recuirter will come to your house or even go out to eat with you and your family. Sometimes it might help to ease things a little.

jburke1983
04-16-10, 04:13 PM
Just sit down with him with some info you get with the recruiter and have a serious talk about it. My parents support me it just took a little explaining to my mom that I was serious and to my dad that I wanted to Enlist early in the DEP. (I sign in June, can't wait, then roughly a yr of preparing) Main thing is see if they will talk to the recuirter with you, you would not belive how much it helps. They walk in with one mind set and come out with a totally different mind set. Another thing is see if the recuirter will come to your house or even go out to eat with you and your family. Sometimes it might help to ease things a little.

You do realize this thread is a year old right?

93F22A6
04-17-10, 12:17 PM
You do realize this thread is a year old right?

I know now, my bad, usually dont pay attention to the dates on threads.

Yonkers
04-25-10, 03:24 PM
Buy Ears Open, Eyeballs Click and watch it with him. Tell him that it's your life and you're absolutely positive it's what you want to do.

My dad basically told me to f off the other day and to never speak with him again, luckily for me I got his signature back in December and I'm 18 :D

Lisa 23
04-25-10, 03:33 PM
Buy Ears Open, Eyeballs Click and watch it with him. Tell him that it's your life and you're absolutely positive it's what you want to do.

My dad basically told me to f off the other day and to never speak with him again, luckily for me I got his signature back in December and I'm 18 :D

Another one, you do realize that this thread is almost 2 years old and hasn't been posted in almost a year, right? Plus the OP hasn't been on this site since July 21, 2009.

Yonkers
04-25-10, 08:52 PM
Another one, you do realize that this thread is almost 2 years old and hasn't been posted in almost a year, right? Plus the OP hasn't been on this site since July 21, 2009.


Sorry, I didn't notice :(

davis09
12-28-10, 03:04 AM
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wilsontc11
01-09-11, 02:31 AM
Yes, definitely DEP in. It really gets you ready for boot camp, and besides, if you decide you don't want to join after you've already sworn in, you CAN quit. You have up until you get onto the bus to go to MCRDPI or SD to quit.

When I DEP'd in, I did 0 pull ups, 62 crunches, and I had an abysmal 17+ minute mile and a half run. I don't even want to know what kind of strings they had to pull to get me in, but they did it.

Just graduated from MCRDPI on 20110107 with a first class PFT, had no trouble what so ever with the knowledge they teach you (Most of it I learned from the DEP), and plus, pool functions are ****ing awesome

ricky54326
01-13-11, 10:55 PM
He posted this 2 years ago, if he hasn't DEP'd in by now, he probably isn't joining.