horselady
07-20-06, 07:09 PM
LOVE ISLAMIC STYLE: Guide for the married man:
After returning from work, school, or travel, husband should shake wife's hand and leave bad news for later!
Try to pay attention when she speaks.
Speak with clarity and repeat word, if necessary, until she understands.
Take her to watch permissible (halal) types of entertainment.
Give her the feeling that her opinion is important to you.
Choose well raised, pious people for her to associate with.
Husband gets rewards for all what he spends on her sustenance even for a small piece of bread that he feeds her by his hand.
Follow the Sunnah by removing hair from the groin and underarms.
Put perfume on her.
INTERCOURSE
It is obligatory to do it habitually unless you have an excuse.
Enter into her in the proper place only (not the anus).
Avoid intercourse during the monthly period
Do what you can to avoid damaging her level of Hiyaa (shyness and modesty) such as taking off your clothes together instead of asking her to do it first while you looking on.
Avoid positions during intercourse that may harm her such as putting pressure on her chest and blocking her breath, especially if you are heavy.
PRIVACY
Avoid disclosing to others private information such as bedroom secrets, her personal problems and other private matters.
Wake her up in the last third of the night to pray "Qiyam-ul-Layl" (extra prayer done at night with long sujood and ruku'ua).
Teach her "Dhikr" (ways to remember Allah by the example of the prophet) in the morning and evening.
Encourage her to spend money for the sake of Allah such as in a charity sale.
Ensure she is wearing proper Hijab before leaving house.
Restrict free mixing with non-mahram men.
JEALOUSY.
Don’t analyze every word and sentence she says and overload her speech by meanings that she did not mean.
Don’t prevent her from going out of the house when the reasons are just
(in your opinion).
Don’t prevent her from answering the phone.
Anger should be shown when she exceeds the boundaries of Allah, by delaying prayers, backbiting, watching prohibited scenes on TV, etc..
DISCIPLINE
First, offer implicit and explicit advice several times.
Then turn your back to her in bed (displaying your feelings). Note that this does not include leaving the bedroom to another room, leaving the house to another place, or not talking with her.
The last solution is lightly striking her. In this case, the husband should consider the following: He should do it only in extreme cases of disobedience, e.g. refusing intercourse without cause, constantly not praying on time, leaving the house for long periods of time without permission nor refusing to tell him where she had been, etc..
Beating should not be done except after having turned from her in bed and discussing the matter with her as mentioned in Qur'an .
Husband should not hit her hard injuring her, or hit her on her face or on sensitive parts of her body.
He should avoid shaming her such as by hitting her with a shoe, a tire iron, etc.
Remember that all humans err so try to find excuses for her such as maybe she is tired, sad, having her monthly cycle or that her commitment to Islam
isn't complete.
Husband should try to avoid attacking her for the bad cooking of the food as the Prophet PBUH never blamed any of his wives for this. If he likes the food, he eats and if he doesn't then he does not eat and does not comment.
Ah, Islam, the religion of romance. http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v209/timedjumpoff/romanticsmilie.gif
After returning from work, school, or travel, husband should shake wife's hand and leave bad news for later!
Try to pay attention when she speaks.
Speak with clarity and repeat word, if necessary, until she understands.
Take her to watch permissible (halal) types of entertainment.
Give her the feeling that her opinion is important to you.
Choose well raised, pious people for her to associate with.
Husband gets rewards for all what he spends on her sustenance even for a small piece of bread that he feeds her by his hand.
Follow the Sunnah by removing hair from the groin and underarms.
Put perfume on her.
INTERCOURSE
It is obligatory to do it habitually unless you have an excuse.
Enter into her in the proper place only (not the anus).
Avoid intercourse during the monthly period
Do what you can to avoid damaging her level of Hiyaa (shyness and modesty) such as taking off your clothes together instead of asking her to do it first while you looking on.
Avoid positions during intercourse that may harm her such as putting pressure on her chest and blocking her breath, especially if you are heavy.
PRIVACY
Avoid disclosing to others private information such as bedroom secrets, her personal problems and other private matters.
Wake her up in the last third of the night to pray "Qiyam-ul-Layl" (extra prayer done at night with long sujood and ruku'ua).
Teach her "Dhikr" (ways to remember Allah by the example of the prophet) in the morning and evening.
Encourage her to spend money for the sake of Allah such as in a charity sale.
Ensure she is wearing proper Hijab before leaving house.
Restrict free mixing with non-mahram men.
JEALOUSY.
Don’t analyze every word and sentence she says and overload her speech by meanings that she did not mean.
Don’t prevent her from going out of the house when the reasons are just
(in your opinion).
Don’t prevent her from answering the phone.
Anger should be shown when she exceeds the boundaries of Allah, by delaying prayers, backbiting, watching prohibited scenes on TV, etc..
DISCIPLINE
First, offer implicit and explicit advice several times.
Then turn your back to her in bed (displaying your feelings). Note that this does not include leaving the bedroom to another room, leaving the house to another place, or not talking with her.
The last solution is lightly striking her. In this case, the husband should consider the following: He should do it only in extreme cases of disobedience, e.g. refusing intercourse without cause, constantly not praying on time, leaving the house for long periods of time without permission nor refusing to tell him where she had been, etc..
Beating should not be done except after having turned from her in bed and discussing the matter with her as mentioned in Qur'an .
Husband should not hit her hard injuring her, or hit her on her face or on sensitive parts of her body.
He should avoid shaming her such as by hitting her with a shoe, a tire iron, etc.
Remember that all humans err so try to find excuses for her such as maybe she is tired, sad, having her monthly cycle or that her commitment to Islam
isn't complete.
Husband should try to avoid attacking her for the bad cooking of the food as the Prophet PBUH never blamed any of his wives for this. If he likes the food, he eats and if he doesn't then he does not eat and does not comment.
Ah, Islam, the religion of romance. http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v209/timedjumpoff/romanticsmilie.gif