Girlfriend

[OhioGuy]

I just really don't see what advice he was looking for, is there something we could tell you that you really didn't already know? I mean hell, it's real simple:
a.) You stay a couple while you're at boot, trusting her not to Fvck around on you, which if she does you will have 0 clue about.

b.) You break up before you ship, have some time to get over her, and don't have it hanging it over your head while trying to become a Marine. Then after boot, you can have sex with whoever you want, free of guilt, and you don't have to be with the same person all the time.

To me, it's a no-brainer... But I'm not the one with the decision to make.

[Ian Blodgett]

I just really don't see what advice he was looking for, is there something we could tell you that you really didn't already know? I mean hell, it's real simple:
a.) You stay a couple while you're at boot, trusting her not to Fvck around on you, which if she does you will have 0 clue about.

b.) You break up before you ship, have some time to get over her, and don't have it hanging it over your head while trying to become a Marine. Then after boot, you can have sex with whoever you want, free of guilt, and you don't have to be with the same person all the time.

To me, it's a no-brainer... But I'm not the one with the decision to make.

Good plan. Haha! This was a no brainer for me too.

[futurepoole08]

SSgt, those are the flags I am refering too. I could not think of what they were called off the top of my head. I'll agree with what you first said about giving your wife a few days heads up hah.

To the OP, chit happens bro. I am in the same situation, but also keeping in mind I maybe one of those that gets the "dear john" letter. I know it is a possibility, and right now it doesn't effect me. Though, it maybe different once I get to Parris Island, and it actually happens.

[KawiGunny]

Whatever any of you poolees do......NEVER get married before you ship off to bootcamp thinking it will make everything alright. I don't care how much you love her and how strong you think your relationship is.

Most of those that do get married before shipping out usually end up in a divorce within a year. It's like telling the young Marines in your platoon it's not a good idea to marry prior to deployment. Some of them still do it and most file for divorce shortly after getting back. As someone else has already mentioned about you bringing Suzie out of hometown USA and around a bunch of other hard-d!cks, when you return from deployment she will be just like you left her....... freshly screwed.

[TazMatt]

It depends on how strong your relationship is with her.I went to boot camp and after boot camp got married was stationed away from her and then went overseas for a year and then in 1975 got out and then in 1988 got divorced so in all that it wasn't because of anything that happened while I in the Corps.So it is what you make of it at anytime and place. Not everyone is going to have a cheating spouse or girlfriend. Make your on choice and don't always depend on the stories you hear.

[KawiGunny]

It depends on how strong your relationship is with her.I went to boot camp and after boot camp got married was stationed away from her and then went overseas for a year and then in 1975 got out and then in 1988 got divorced so in all that it wasn't because of anything that happened while I in the Corps.So it is what you make of it at anytime and place. Not everyone is going to have a cheating spouse or girlfriend. Make your on choice and don't always depend on the stories you hear.

Very True. Not all women will do you wrong. Hopefully you have one of the good ones.

[PaidinBlood]

Personally i think its a dumb*** idea to have a girlfriend while going to boot camp. Although i have not gone through boot camp yet, i think it would just complicate your stay at the Recruit Depot. Most women back home are the same, and they will all end up doing the same thing, no matter how much they promise they wont. (Whether you like it or not). Promises become empty because most women just cant help themselves. I dont know, those are just my thoughts. Feel free to correct me if i'm wrong becuase I'm no expert on the matter, becuase i am young and in-experienced. I just think it will screw with your head big time, when you should be concentrating on more important things in the Marine Corps.

So I suppose you're calling me a fvcking idiot, huh?

[PaidinBlood]

It depends on how strong your relationship is with her.I went to boot camp and after boot camp got married was stationed away from her and then went overseas for a year and then in 1975 got out and then in 1988 got divorced so in all that it wasn't because of anything that happened while I in the Corps.So it is what you make of it at anytime and place. Not everyone is going to have a cheating spouse or girlfriend. Make your on choice and don't always depend on the stories you hear.

Probably the best yet-this is exactly true. If she was just your steady fvck then odds are she will be keep that up after you are gone. If it's for real then quit worrying about. Just don't marry her yet and see where it goes. Sounds like you've already got some trust issues. Kind of a red flag.

Had a jaded old plt sgt who LOVED to see young Marines shattered by cheating wives. Guess he came home and caught his ex with company (x2) one time... Don't let that be you...

Don't forget that you are as likely to cheat as she is. Marines want to get out there and paint the town and I think they can be even less faithful than their wives. Had a financial management class the other day and the lady claims pendleton's divorce rate is 85% and climbing. don't know where she got those numbers from...

[jeffsnff89]

I tell you what if my girl ever cheated on me and I found out, Well I just hope I would catch them in the act I would knock the guy out while he was on top of her smile at her a just say . peace! And walk out and go hang out in a club.

[PaidinBlood]

always easy to say til you're in that position. never had the honor and I hope you dont either, brother...

[OhioGuy]

paidinblood, I agree with pretty much everything you've posted so far... Not all girls are gonna run around on their men while they're away, some girls just aren't like that. However, if this guy had to make a thread about it, it would seem like a red flag to me as well!

Now if I was a girl leaving a guy behind when I went to boot... Well that's a different story entirely...

[mcvet57103]

Dont worry about it, Jodi will keep an eye on her for ya !


Its only 3months, man...Dont sweat it.


I left a girlfriend back home when I shipped out, when I got home- I sent her on her way...I saw plenty of recruits all teary eyed over their girls- made me sick.

HOWEVER, our SDI made all recruits that recieved photos of their girls, put said photos up on a tack board, some were HOTT !!

Wanna get the envy of the other recruits get her to send you some sexy poses. And when I was at Boot it was called the Hog Board. One recruit got sexy swimsuit pictures sent to him by his sister, when he wrote her and told her about the Board. We had a freindly competition amoung the Recruits on who could post the sexiest pictures, short of Pornogrophy on the Hog Board.

[mcvet57103]

I married my school sweetheart right after my MOS training while on leave on my way to Okinawa for 13 months. While over there I was sending most of my money home to her so that we would have a nest egg for when I returned. She was living rent free with her parents. Well I got back and found out we had diddly. She spent the 13 months partying with her GFs and, stories have it with, (never quite proved) a couple of guys. Took her to Camp LeJeune with me, and had more suspicions while I was on base she was not at home. Got out, went back home, she had an affair with her boss. I divorced her and figured I wasted, looking back over our marriage, about 7 years of my life. I was a paycheck for her nothing else. Stay single if you have any iota of a doubt about her faithfulness to you. I wish I had a forum like this before I enlisted. Would have saved myself tons of heartache, and misery.

[Petz]

paidinblood, I agree with pretty much everything you've posted so far... Not all girls are gonna run around on their men while they're away, some girls just aren't like that. However, if this guy had to make a thread about it, it would seem like a red flag to me as well!

Now if I was a girl leaving a guy behind when I went to boot... Well that's a different story entirely...

don't tell him that! it'll just make his head bigger!!! haha... hey PIB

[Marine84]

I tell you what if my girl ever cheated on me and I found out, Well I just hope I would catch them in the act I would knock the guy out while he was on top of her smile at her a just say . peace! And walk out and go hang out in a club.

Why you gonna get mad at him? She's the one opening her legs!