AD Marine Officer & Child Custody problem

[charm1110]

While I wish you good luck, I also know that there's a lot more than luck involved here. I hope you're able to get in contact with that attorney suggested by Dave2571 and if not that one another one in Texas very soon. Remember also that the mother will probably try to paint you in the worst possible light so don't do anything rash. Watch what you say(and type), and who you say it to, Don't give her anything to use against you. I'm praying for you and your son.

Semper Fi...

[DanTheMan B]

From what I've heard, Texas always sides with the mother on everything. Guess they are pretty old-fashioned in the Lone Star State still when it comes to some things.

[USMC2571]

Every state sides with the mother when the father remains silent, hence my advice to get some advice. Most states figure a mom knows how to care for a child better than a father does. That's the premise. So unless she is unfit, or on drugs, or a danger to the child, the courts frequently give custody to the child.
But they also give joint custody on many occasions, and certainly visitation as long as the dad is paying child support informally or formally, via a court order.
So while courts side with the mom, they are actually siding with the child...and if the father stays quiet about it, that's the way it will stay. If he goes proactive and gets the ball rolling, fathers have a better shot at everything. Courts don't normally just take away a child from a mom and give him or her to the dad just because the dad wants to raise the child. But certainly they do order visitation.
So IF folks give up, just because their state is pro-Mom, which is actually, Pro Child---- figuring they have a fight and they don't want to fight for their rights, they sit back and take the consequences.

[Mongoose]

Im very proud to call all of you Marine brothers, even you Dan. This is what we do best. We take care of each other despite our individual beliefs and convictions. Its an Honor!

[wildwoman73]

From what I've heard, Texas always sides with the mother on everything. Guess they are pretty old-fashioned in the Lone Star State still when it comes to some things.

Unless the mother doesn't want custody or the father can prove her unfit for full custody...that's typically how it goes.

[UTexCody]

Well I appreciate everyone's help and advice. I have contacted a few lawyers in Texas as well as the one that Dave suggested. I am still in the process of figuring everything out and how I'm going to proceed. I also am getting a power of attorney so my mom and dad can assist me with this too back home, since it might be hard sometimes given the fact I'm here on Oki. And Dan, we aren't all old-fashioned in Texas. We just are kinda set in our ways I suppose. My main concern though above anything is the welfare of my boy and I'm gonna do everything in my power to make sure he isn't traumatized be this whole thing, regardless how ugly it gets.

[VictoryttBold]

This unfortunately is an instance where Lady Justice is not blind and should be.

[tripledog]

Suggest you get a cheap hit man.

[UTexCody]

Been a while since I've been on here. Anyway I got a letter from attorney saying that our son wants to be with her and her only and wants nothing to do with me. I have a feeling he is being brainwashed by her. She is crazy anyway, so nothing would surprise me. Well I am going to get my boy back in my life, even if I have to resign my commission to do it.

[VictoryttBold]

How old is your son ?

[UTexCody]

How old is your son ?

He's 3, which is why I don't buy what she's saying.

[VictoryttBold]

Dude she's MO(mentally off), keep up the fight. That trash will end up working against her.

[ARTYPIG]

Don't quit the fight brother. I'm still fighting for my kids. She was worried on what I would say to my kids when she has been saying a whole lot including get re-married. That doesn't bother me so much except for the fact that she told my kids not to call me daddy anymore because they have a new one. She is beginning to step on her dick now because she thinks she is untouchable and is making huge mistakes. I'm praying for you! SEMPER FI

[UTexCody]

Don't quit the fight brother. I'm still fighting for my kids. She was worried on what I would say to my kids when she has been saying a whole lot including get re-married. That doesn't bother me so much except for the fact that she told my kids not to call me daddy anymore because they have a new one. She is beginning to step on her dick now because she thinks she is untouchable and is making huge mistakes. I'm praying for you! SEMPER FI

Man that's gotta be rough. I have a feeling this is going to drag on for quite awhile, because nothing is going to stop from seeing my boy, and being in his life. Thanks man. SF.

[USNAviator]

Don't quit the fight brother. I'm still fighting for my kids. She was worried on what I would say to my kids when she has been saying a whole lot including get re-married. That doesn't bother me so much except for the fact that she told my kids not to call me daddy anymore because they have a new one. She is beginning to step on her dick now because she thinks she is untouchable and is making huge mistakes. I'm praying for you! SEMPER FI

Arty keep fighting.Never give up on your kids. It's typical in these situations where one ex will use the children against the other

What she's doing is just plain wrong. You're the father and that should be reinforced in their lives continuously

None of my business re financial arrangement but if she does get remarried and you're paying spousal support that will most likely cease. You will continue to pay CS. Again not sure of your states law re CS but it usually ends when the child turns 18 but in some states it continues until the child turns 22 or graduates from college

Also you're probably responsible for paying at least 50% of their health care needs.

I've seen situations where one spouse will accuse the other of abuse, not of a sexual nature but corporal or verbal. Whether these allegations are true or not is moot because the courts take it very seriously as does the Child Protective Services. I've know men who were simply accused, never found guilty who could not see their children unless a social worker was present. And who had to pay for this social worker, the Dad.

Lt. this advice is also intended for you. Perhaps a sad glimpse into your future litigation. I served as our squadron FRO for about 18 months and it was a quick but in depth education into how parents screw with their kids

The battle will continue until one side runs out of money or the other quits and the only "winners" are the lawyers. Don't they always?