My husband wants to re-join
My husband served as a military police officer/physical security specialist from 04-08, we have been out for almost 3 years. I married my husband right before he left for boot camp and have been together ever since. When my husband got out in 08, we figured it was the best decision for our family, we had 2 daughters at the time. He never deployed during his time in but knew it was a possibility so we wanted out. Now that it has been a few years I can see the the Marine in my husband still is very much with him. Since getting out my husband has went through a few jobs and we also had another child. Although my husbands makes an income that can support our family, his dreams of being a Marine again are stronger then ever. He has almost completed his degree in criminal justice but does not feel that is the right fit for him.
Looking back at my time as a Marine wife, i have to admit that I did not get along with the marine corps at all. I destined myself to be miserable, and I was. However, now being more mature and realizing what the corps has to offer I truly want the chance to make the most out of it.
Im hesitant, however, to go back to the marine corps. I still fear deployments and Im not sure how I would deal witht that. My family is against the decision to go back in and they break my heart and make me feel guilty for taking the kids away from them. And thats another story all together. what about the kids? Our oldest is now old enough to understand what is going on, how would they react to moving away, or if daddy has to be gone for 9 months or longer?
And then there is the guilt that i feel. What if something would happen to him, how could i forgive myself for agreeing to go back in? Could I live with myself if the worst case scenerio would happen?
I feel like my mind is being torn in a million directions. When I listen to my husband he puts reason back in my head. He talks about the benefits of retirement, school funds for the kids, etc. I just dont want this decision to be a selfish one.
Aside from that, the process of getting back in has been less then easy.
We are going on 4 months dealing with recruitiors and all the paperwork. We have done everything they have told us to do and still no answers. My hubby's re-enlistment code was RE-1A, shouldnt have any problems, yet it is taking forever and the recruitor almost seems to be avoiding us. He is never at the office, is busy or we get voice mail!!
If anyone has any advice from a spouse standpoint or anyone have any ideas about prior service re-enlistment, I would love to hear comments. Thanks!!