My husband was active duty for 4 years. He always said he wanted to be a lifer. I told him, repeatedly, that if that was what he wanted I would stick by his side no matter what. We got married and I got pregnant. After our first u/s we found out we were having twins. He did a complete 180 and decided he wanted to get out to be home with us. I said okay, but only if that was what he truly wanted. He said yes. It's been almost 2 years since and I can tell he is really miserable in the the civilian world. The Marine in him stands out and he is just not adapting to civilian life. I can tell it's hard on him. Very hard. He is inactive reserve now btw.
I have this inkling, call it woman's intuition, that he wants to go back. I know he misses all of his buddies, he loved what he did. I've asked him a few times if he wants to go back and he says no with his mouth...but his eyes say yes, yes, yes! The biggest thing keeping him from reenlisting, is the kids and I. He's nervous about being sent back to the front lines and leaving us...without him.
Any advice on how I can let him know that if he really does want to go back that I'll be there with him? I've flat out told him that I would and that no matter his decision the boys and I are by his side. *sigh* I just want the hubby man to be happy and...I know the Marines made him happy.