Poolee getting married...need advice
My stepson leaves for boot camp on August 29, one week after his 22nd birthday. When we first found out about Nick's intention to join, we were upset, but then realized it would be the best thing for him. Nick is a sweet kid but is very immature and doesn't know what he wants, so his Marine experience should help him mature and give him some much-needed clarity. The problem is, when he signed his contract in January, he also asked his girlfriend of 2 months to marry him. She is 19 and graduated from high school last June. She is only the third girl Nick has dated, and he is her first boyfriend. The wedding is July 23rd, one month before he leaves.
Our side feels that this is an approaching train wreck, but the bride's family is all excited. Her parents had the wedding completely planned out before we had even met them for the first time. They don't seem to understand how much my stepson will change over the next several months and that the best idea would be to put everything on hold at least until Nick has finished his training.
My husband has tried talking to his son, but Nick is very bullheaded and will not listen (another sign of his immaturity). Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this?