The Importance of Fathers: Don’t Forget the Big Picture
The Importance of Fathers: Don’t Forget the Big Picture
January 31, 2005
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by Alan Millard
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The most crucial and important of priorities are our children. Yet, a terrible social condition now allows them to be taken from fathers and deprived their fathers’ influence. But, let’s not forget, this is a symptom of a much larger problem we had many years in coming, towards which little resistance was expressed. And we must also realize it is derived from a prejudice against men, or more precisely, human males, that occurs from when boys are very young, and is set as a self-governing standard when boys first learn about their sexuality and discover, what I call, the male dirty/guilty connotation. They develop, not only a strong desire, but a need, for sex, which characteristic is laced with a negative identity. The same urge, due to a need necessary for complete male health, is not present in the female due to less levels of testosterone. The effect has been known and experienced for centuries, and is a condition seen in males of other species. But even this fact of life is now arbitrarily denied. For women to acknowledge this male need, legitimately, is to lose the power it gives them. To negatively acknowledge the male need, and use it to demean men, allows an unrestrained power—an unquestioned ability to manipulate men without providing any value in trade, nor to experience the consequences of mutual responsibility. It allows women to not be held accountable for actions that in the past were considered inappropriate, unladylike and provocative, when initiating acts they were previously held accountable for due to men’s exclusive needs to women, with acknowledgement accompanying the social demonstration.
Once allowed to become established, the women’s movement/feminist influence, has had many ramifications. The sacrifice of fatherhood is only one, but a major one. Fathers are men, and this is where the problem originates that results in their lack of equal reproductive/parental rights to women. However, by only attempting to put out this fire–a symptom of a much larger problem—and have equal parental rights, men/fathers will never achieve a status that will allow them to put the fire out. Men have put up with far too much. Only when their children are taken from them by feminist-influenced means and attitudes within the government/courts, due to a social separatism of women from men, have men via fathers shown some of the most resistance—much of which is in vain due to both the traditional chivalric and feminist power base.
True, our offspring are the most important value of all. But, due to a lack of preventive measures, our offspring are now controlled and influenced by feminism. (This includes exclusive female contact, movies, television and other media sources and school, via feminist, influence.) As rational strategists, why have men not protected themselves, their children and our country from this result? Because they are vulnerable to, and greatly influenced by, women! Many men—well-groomed and conditioned from when boys—are influenced by chivalry, which established precedent, broke the path for feminism and its influence. A power outside the people used women as a means of influence to convert society to create the social conditions of today. This late reaction by men/fathers is not without merit, of course, but it is also strongly laced with disgrace, negligence, and a lack of integrity by both men and women who have allowed social conditions to get this bad.
Some veteran men’s rights advocates are bitter, and believe that men, after all this time of allowing the injustice to overcome, deserve their fate. And others, still out of the optimist loop, believe that they may not be worth fighting for, although their children are. Others fail to acknowledge their fate, and many lacking adequate self-worth, are ashamed to fight for themselves, and are filled with self-hatred. The epitome of this effect is demonstrated by the pro-feminist males who actually fight for feminism.
Many men have been violated, with children wronged and turned against fathers. The effect is creating new generations of hatred against men, and even more advanced feminist-influence. Another form of holocaust is brewing, only this time against a sex, with matching techniques already in place initially used by the Nazis against the Jews and other “inferior” races, now used against an “inferior” sex, to persuade society against men, and even heterosexuality.
Those within the men’s equality effort from the start—when feminists first began their prejudiced and discriminatory campaign—are those of seasoned wisdom. They must be consulted for their insight, with original philosophies endorsed, definitely not tainted by feminist influence that has had its reign for the past 30 years.
We must go back in time, and start from a sound foundation for the men’s equality cause to work, thereby gaining a basic understanding of maleness that will allow a full standing of integrity to be applied without feminism contaminating or diluting its efforts. We need to remember that even before the women’s movement, men were considered second-class to women. This is when women’s status of being placed on a pedestal existed and when women were given an exclusive prerogative, served in the mating scene, protected and allowed to go first, with doors opened for them when they did. Is this a second-class status? Only damned fools bought the women’s movement idea, and now we see at what cost.
Why are women and minorities classified the same as Blacks? When were Blacks ever placed on a pedestal or granted an exclusive prerogative? Men have yet to achieve an equal status, let alone one placing them upon a pedestal, to women. Which sex is first to be sacrificed in time of war? Which sex must—not a choice—still register for the military? It’s a choice—prerogative--for women, not for men. Many seem to also fail in their equality assessment to include women’s exclusive sexual powers/influence over men, and their motherly influence that, with their custody/parental privileges, also reigns superior to men who are not granted equal parental or reproductive rights.
I was perceptive to this 30 years ago, and could then not believe that masses were following this feminist garbage that had no bearing on truth, reality or justice. There were those of a responsible nature, if some of us remember, who believed that for every imbalance on the equality scale, a counter-balance exists for the opposite sex. But these people and their efforts were quickly thwarted by the true feminist agenda, and its push occurring outside of the people. Few now know that issues came up then that recognized the imbalance concerning men. And these equality advocates—believe it or not—didn’t blame men, but attempted to objectively address inequities they recognized had evolved in to what both men and women had to work out together. They did not hold men solely accountable and blame men, or try to get more at the other sex’s expense, which has led to disrespect, prejudice, male persecution, and lack of good character in today’s women. I actually remember women being as concerned about men in equality issues as they were for women during the Viet Nam era and shortly thereafter, with some claiming that men had more to gain than women by attaining real equality standards. The cause wasn’t even sex - secular based , but actually an effort based upon equal consideration for both sexes, emerging it seemed from a positive, free-love/hippy era attitude and philosophy. But the reason women were catered to, is due to a pre-established higher status (superiority to men) that allowed them to get more, with feminism using this prior status to its full advantage.
Selfishness and greed have played a major role. When we hear crap like women are more empathetic than men, we should realize that only due to men’s empathy over women’s is the reason women have received more than men. Thus, the damsel in distress/chivalry syndrome has its application. But denial of this continual social demonstration is evident by those who use it most to their advantage, with abuse of such a power base. As I continue to stress, equality is a man’s claim.
Allan Millard
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