Married Recruits?

[sbryson21]

I realize I'm probably in the minority with this due to the typical age of the average recruit, but I'm still curious to hear from others on this topic. I've been married for a little over 2 years now and I have to say that leaving my wife behind to fend for herself while I'm at boot is going to be very difficult. It's hard for me to go and fulfill my dream and do something I've always wanted to do, while she's stuck back at home in the same life just minus her husband. Now, she is a very strong, selfless, and supportive girl that is behind me 100 percent but its still difficult... Any other poolees in this situation as well? Just curious to see how many other married people are on here getting ready to ship out... God bless!

[MJAvalon]

I realize I'm probably in the minority with this due to the typical age of the average recruit, but I'm still curious to hear from others on this topic. I've been married for a little over 2 years now and I have to say that leaving my wife behind to fend for herself while I'm at boot is going to be very difficult. It's hard for me to go and fulfill my dream and do something I've always wanted to do, while she's stuck back at home in the same life just minus her husband. Now, she is a very strong, selfless, and supportive girl that is behind me 100 percent but its still difficult... Any other poolees in this situation as well? Just curious to see how many other married people are on here getting ready to ship out... God bless!

I am going to somewhat go through that..the only difference is that we are not married but we love each other to death and she is carrying my first son Jordan already on her 7th month..we are going to get married after I come back from Boot Camp but for the sake of our child's happiness, she would like to stay here in Vegas where her family lives to help her out..it sucks if ever my son won't recognize me or have "stranger danger" towards me when I come visit when I have leave but I am living both my dream and for my new family to survive on what I earn..I leave this coming Sunday to start Boot the following Monday so we planned out everything and talked amongst each other and faced reality..Communication is really the key to work things out

[nrml1]

Its all about trust and preparation. I've been married for 6 years and we've been making the necessary preparations for this for about a year and a half.. we have 1 child. I have the utmost confidence that she will be able to take her of not only herself, but also the house and the kid.

Good luck on everything and make sure she's as committed to this as you are.

[PullUps]

Me too, I've been married for almost three years and my wife is okay with me going to boot.

[Yonkers]

I made a promise to myself that I won't go into Boot with a girlfriend... I figure it's for the best... Don't have to worry about what she is doing the whole time.

[CastNoShadow]

I am in the same situation as you Shane. My wife and I have been married for nearly 2 years, and she doesn't know a lot of people here in Nashville. This makes me very nervous to leave her alone for 3 months of boot and then another 3 months for SOI.

The only thing I can do is try and make sure all the bases are covered before I leave to increase the odds of everything going smoothly while we are gone. For example, I spent last week installing some new deadbolt locks on the front and back door, this week I am getting a couple of preventative repairs done on her car.

In reality most things will be out of my hands while I am gone, but I can at least try and make sure all of the little things have been taken care of before I leave.

Chances are your wife will be just fine while you are gone. Just make sure you do your husbandly responsibilities you go. Good luck mate.

[jcleven1]

My wife is being very supportive, I think the most important thing will be for her, and your respective wives, to continue to be supportive in their letters. We've been married two years, and she's being very gracious considering the hold this is going to put on my professional career at home, and just living our lives. Also trust is an issue with your marriage, not the Marine Corps, you shouldn't be married to someone you don't truly believe will be faithful when you're only getting started as far as time commitment.

[Cruz92]

I am in the same situation as you Shane. My wife and I have been married for nearly 2 years, and she doesn't know a lot of people here in Nashville. This makes me very nervous to leave her alone for 3 months of boot and then another 3 months for SOI.

The only thing I can do is try and make sure all the bases are covered before I leave to increase the odds of everything going smoothly while we are gone. For example, I spent last week installing some new deadbolt locks on the front and back door, this week I am getting a couple of preventative repairs done on her car.

In reality most things will be out of my hands while I am gone, but I can at least try and make sure all of the little things have been taken care of before I leave.

Chances are your wife will be just fine while you are gone. Just make sure you do your husbandly responsibilities you go. Good luck mate.

SOI i believe is only like 3 weeks

[sbombard15]

SOI i believe is only like 3 weeks

lol its three months.

[Borknagar]

The people before me said it all.... I think that in the end it is worth it (so there wouldn't be regrets later), and it isn't for too long, depending on how long the MOS school will be... Plus, there is a chance the first duty station won't be under unaccompanied orders, so there is a relief.. ;)

Let's get the title first suckas!

[jcleven1]

lol its three months.

According to the SOI website its 59 days, so about two months.

http://www.marines.mil/unit/tecom/soieast/itb/Pages/Expect.aspx

[sbombard15]

According to the SOI website its 59 days, so about two months.

http://www.marines.mil/unit/tecom/soieast/itb/Pages/Expect.aspx

Well I guess we are all wrong lol

[Cruz92]

well,.i guess MCT is 3 weeks..
If you attend this, you dont attend SOI, right?

[sbombard15]

well,.i guess MCT is 3 weeks..
If you attend this, you dont attend SOI, right?

Right, mct is for non infantry Marines. Not sure of the length of mct because I have a infantry contract.

[lmm11205]

When I DEPed I was already engaged and was planning on setting a date once i found out my ship date. Ive been with my fiance for six years but im only 21 years of age( we're high school sweethearts) . It will be hard on her but i know she is tough. Once i signed i found out i was'nt leaving for eight months so she has plenty enough time to plan the wedding. We're getting married about a month before i leave

[alphasquirrel]

I've been married for five years and have one child. The difference, of course, is that I'm the wife and the one leaving and my husband is going to be at home with our son. Well, technically, he'll be at work and our son will be in day care while I'm gone.

It's going to be very, Very hard to walk away from them. Especially my son. I love them both so very much.

Luckily for me, my husband is a former Marine and is standing proudly behind me. He believes in me completely and assures me that I have what it takes to come home to him a better, stronger woman than when I left.

[reigninblood]

Wow, I am surprised how many married Poolees there are.
I am also married, I have been married for almost a year. I ship out to boot camp in a few weeks. My wife is supportive 100 percent but I know the separation is going to suck.