osborned
03-01-10, 01:30 PM
Hey guys, I have a matter that has arisen with an in-law, and I'd like some comments and advice.
Here's the lowdown.
My wife's sister (not to be named) married a guy (hereafter referred to as D-Bag) last year. They have a little girl, not yet 1 year old. My sis-in-law is rather wealthy, as she won the local lottery a few years back, and her family do very well. D-Bag convinced her to entirely support him, including paying off about 20 grand worth of debt, ranging from medical bills to XBoxes and new cell phones. He never held a job during their marriage for more than a few weeks at a time, and was generally a deadbeat.
The military aspect is that he joined the Air Force in November. After graduating in December, D-Bag calls her up at home from his barracks room and tells her the following:
1) He never loved her.
2) He was using her for her money.
3) He's leaving the baby with her.
4) He wants a divorce, and wants her to initiate it herself.
She's obviously very broken up, feeling taken advantage of, abandoned, all the feelings I'm sure you'd all expect. I'm currently doing my best to give her all of the military contacts that I can to help her. I've even gone so far as to contact D-Bag's command and get hold of his 1st Sgt. I explained all that I knew about this situation to the 1st Sgt, who was very pleased to be given the lowdown. I was told there is not much that the Air Force can do to directly discipline D-Bag, aside from making sure his wages get garnished. However I am heartened by how ****ed off the 1st Sgt was by this whole complicated ordeal, and he assured me he would contact my sis-in-law today and give her what advice and help he could.
I think the best thing I've done so far is to inform this guy's command as to what he's done and how he's treating his family. What I feel he's done is to use this nation's military to his financial advantage, ensuring that he has a steady income of his own before abandoning his family, in the process using them as a stepping stone to his goals. I know that my command would want to know if I'd done something similar.
Has anyone else been in a situation similar to this one, and have any advice for this poor girl as to what she can do to ensure she and her child get what is owed to her?
Here's the lowdown.
My wife's sister (not to be named) married a guy (hereafter referred to as D-Bag) last year. They have a little girl, not yet 1 year old. My sis-in-law is rather wealthy, as she won the local lottery a few years back, and her family do very well. D-Bag convinced her to entirely support him, including paying off about 20 grand worth of debt, ranging from medical bills to XBoxes and new cell phones. He never held a job during their marriage for more than a few weeks at a time, and was generally a deadbeat.
The military aspect is that he joined the Air Force in November. After graduating in December, D-Bag calls her up at home from his barracks room and tells her the following:
1) He never loved her.
2) He was using her for her money.
3) He's leaving the baby with her.
4) He wants a divorce, and wants her to initiate it herself.
She's obviously very broken up, feeling taken advantage of, abandoned, all the feelings I'm sure you'd all expect. I'm currently doing my best to give her all of the military contacts that I can to help her. I've even gone so far as to contact D-Bag's command and get hold of his 1st Sgt. I explained all that I knew about this situation to the 1st Sgt, who was very pleased to be given the lowdown. I was told there is not much that the Air Force can do to directly discipline D-Bag, aside from making sure his wages get garnished. However I am heartened by how ****ed off the 1st Sgt was by this whole complicated ordeal, and he assured me he would contact my sis-in-law today and give her what advice and help he could.
I think the best thing I've done so far is to inform this guy's command as to what he's done and how he's treating his family. What I feel he's done is to use this nation's military to his financial advantage, ensuring that he has a steady income of his own before abandoning his family, in the process using them as a stepping stone to his goals. I know that my command would want to know if I'd done something similar.
Has anyone else been in a situation similar to this one, and have any advice for this poor girl as to what she can do to ensure she and her child get what is owed to her?