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EnderInExile
01-23-10, 02:31 PM
I'm a Female Marine (0431) and I've been in for a little over 2 years, I EAS next year Nov. I have been with one command since reaching the fleet. I'm stationed on Camp Lejeune. He is an E-5, (intel, linguist) in for 4 years, stationed on Fort Gordon, currently with his first command since hitting the fleet. He EAS's next year some time in August.

My question is how likely do you think it would be for the Marine Corps or Army to try to move one of us to be closer to the other one if we were to marry? From my understanding it probably wouldn't happen and we'd just make separations pay. He's practically immovable and there isn't a need for an Embarkation Specialist south of me.. and I've also heard that that's only applied to those that were married before the corps? No one seems to be able to give me much information, or direct me to someone who would know. I suppose this is also up to my commands discretion.

I was curious if anyone else has been through a similar situation as well..
They need a support group for dual military members that are in different branches and living in different states.. or maybe there is one!? :)

Take care all,
and Semper Fi

polizei
01-23-10, 02:42 PM
You need to work on your profile. And where's my popcorn...

Lisa 23
01-23-10, 02:43 PM
It would be great for you to fill out all of your profile so the Marines who are going to answer your questions, know who they are talking to. :thumbup:

Lisa 23
01-23-10, 02:46 PM
Here's your popcorn, polizei.......

http://fattiefatterton.files.wordpress.com/2009/09/popcorn.jpg?w=150&h=133

Old Marine
01-23-10, 02:51 PM
Man, the profile police never seem to let anything slide by.

Rocky C
01-23-10, 02:54 PM
Here's your popcorn, polizei.......

http://fattiefatterton.files.wordpress.com/2009/09/popcorn.jpg?w=150&h=133

I feel left out Lisa :(

EnderInExile
01-23-10, 02:55 PM
I'm not sure what your expectations are on my profile. But I have filled it in a bit. :) I thought I had provided enough relevant info in the post itself, but I can understand the need for a semi-detailed profile!

Semper Fi.

Lisa 23
01-23-10, 02:57 PM
I feel left out Lisa :(
Sorry about that Rocky.....

Popcorn for everyone!!!!

http://modelshoeshine.com/images/popcorn_machine_mti1.jpg

Rocky C
01-23-10, 02:59 PM
Sorry about that Rocky.....

Popcorn for everyone!!!!

http://modelshoeshine.com/images/popcorn_machine_mti1.jpg

Thank you Lisa.
Now I am " Thread Ready " :D

Lisa 23
01-23-10, 03:04 PM
Thank you Lisa.
Now I am " Thread Ready " :D
You're welcome Rocky! ;)

Wyoming
01-23-10, 04:25 PM
Why marry army?

Why not go 1st Class?

egbutler1
01-23-10, 04:30 PM
The military are not going to take time out of their lives to move you just cause you got married. Your a$$ belongs to the Corps and until you have done your 8 yr (4 active 4 IRR) contract it will stay that way. You can get geo bachelor money but thats about it. Until than just wait till you EAS and than you won't have to worry bout it.

3522
01-23-10, 04:37 PM
egbutler's answer sounds about right. To turn things around, "If the Corps wanted you to have a husband, it would've issued you one!" And he woulda been Marine Corps issue, not Army. :D

Phantom Blooper
01-23-10, 04:40 PM
These are command decisions...being married is no guarantee.

Especially with two different branches of the armed forces.

The MOS has to be at the base or post and a billet has to be open to fill before anyone can even think about doing anything.

If you were to get married in my opine being in two different branches....you would more than likely have a long distance relationship until one of you decides to either get out or transfer and enlist in the other branch.

Until that time there is not much that the Marine Corps is going to do to put you with an army spouse.....they only say that if Marine marries Marine and all the conditions are favorable...MOS...need....billet......... that they will try to get you stationed within 50 miles of each other.

Other than that I would suggest allot of cold showers and save some of your paycheck for phone bills.

:evilgrin:

Wyoming
01-23-10, 04:43 PM
... besides, marrying a 'Sodier' sounds kinda wierd.

Phantom Blooper
01-23-10, 04:49 PM
Sodier

That is the French spelling AL!:beer:

:evilgrin:

EnderInExile
01-23-10, 05:49 PM
lol We've known each other since High School, and we're defending the same country!


We're just 5 1/2 hours away from each other, we see each other every 96/72, and the weekends where he can make it. We take leave, then there's phone calls, texts, emails, and pictures.

It was just an idea. :)

EnderInExile
01-23-10, 05:55 PM
Why marry army?

Why not go 1st Class?

I married a Marine. He cheated on me with a *Male* florist, so I divorced his @$S. Now I'm with the man (who happens to be in the Army) that I should have been with. I'm sorry what were you saying about 1st Class?

EnderInExile
01-23-10, 05:58 PM
Excuse me for being human and omitting a letter by accident.
Let me stand corrected.
*SOLDIER

He's a *soldier* and an outstanding person.

Rocky C
01-23-10, 06:01 PM
I married a Marine. He cheated on me with a *Male* florist, so I divorced his @$S. Now I'm with the man (who happens to be in the Army) that I should have been with. I'm sorry what were you saying about 1st Class?

With a "MALE" florist????????????????????:sick:
say it ain't so.:evilgrin:

Quinbo
01-23-10, 08:07 PM
My first wife was Navy ... be both re enlisted at about the same time and after a lot of leg work and phone calls we PCS'd at the same time. She was sent to Coronado and I was sent to Pendleton. Not real close together but close enough. Next enlistment I got orders to Quantico and she got orders to Japan. Took us a year to finalize the divorce.

EnderInExile
01-23-10, 11:19 PM
My first wife was Navy ... be both re enlisted at about the same time and after a lot of leg work and phone calls we PCS'd at the same time. She was sent to Coronado and I was sent to Pendleton. Not real close together but close enough. Next enlistment I got orders to Quantico and she got orders to Japan. Took us a year to finalize the divorce.



Well, that's an awful story. I'm sorry it didn't pan out.

Fortunetly we will both be getting out next year and with a past as extensive as ours and the kind of personality we both share I don't see our relationship disintegrating any time soon.

Anyway it might be worth getting married for the extra pay, it would be a little more cash to help us with the move and starting up school etc..

Quinbo
01-24-10, 01:07 AM
I guess it was just my rambling way of saying that you can't just up and move mid contract but they will work with if with you and your spouse to co-locate when if you re enlist and PCS.

saulsel
01-24-10, 01:17 AM
You can get one of your SNCO's to contact your monitior to have him contact your husbands army monitor, we going through that exact situation at my shop right now one of my male Marines over here in Okinawa is married to a female soldier in Korea. she is due to rotate May of this year and he was not due to rotate until Dec of this year, we contacted both monitors and he submited for a tour curtailment (turned his 24 mo tour into a 18 mo tour) and there monitors got them stationed together in Quantico and there leaving around the same time.

EnderInExile
01-24-10, 01:48 AM
You can get one of your SNCO's to contact your monitior to have him contact your husbands army monitor, we going through that exact situation at my shop right now one of my male Marines over here in Okinawa is married to a female soldier in Korea. she is due to rotate May of this year and he was not due to rotate until Dec of this year, we contacted both monitors and he submited for a tour curtailment (turned his 24 mo tour into a 18 mo tour) and there monitors got them stationed together in Quantico and there leaving around the same time.

Thank you! My monitor was actually at my office a couple months ago. There are several people within my office who've contacted him concerning several things and he has gotten back to each one of them. So this may be good news. :) If anything maybe I could be moved a little closer. Thanks for the reply!