View Full Version : 18, enlisted, and newly engaged
So I'm 18 and have been in the process of enlisting in the Marine Corps for the last couple months ((I'm 8lbs overweight and can't seem to get it off no matter what I try!!!)) and my boyfriend, who is already a Marine, proposed to me over the holidays and of course I accepted. I love him more than anything and told him I would give up anything to be with him, including my enlistment.
the problem is that I want it all. I want to be married to the love of my life and be able to see him as much as possible, and I want to be one of the fewer and the prouder.
Basically I want to know if we would ever be able to see each other if we were both Marines.
Also, I'm wondering if anyone has any advice about when a good time for us to be married would be....before his deployment, after?
I just feel like I'm being forced to choose between my two loves, my fiance and the Marine Corps and am hoping someone has been through a similiar situation and can give me some insight!
firedog974
01-06-10, 09:59 PM
Here is what I posted to you in your original thread:
First off, you need to live for you, not your man. Second, if your guy loves you, he will respect your decision to be a Marine. My wife and I met when I was 21 years old. I joined the Corps at 22, and after I went through boot camp, she decided she wanted to drop out of college, and become a Marine. I did not fight her on it. I knew if it was something SHE wanted, it was something I should support. We went through 6+ years in the Corps together, including the birth of both of our children. We have been married almost 12 years now. We would not have lasted a year if I ever held her back from achieving goals she set for herself. We spend the first 9 months of our marriage apart (for her mos school) but after that, the Corps kept us together. Communicate with your guy, and figure out what is important to you, and to him.
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brian0351
01-07-10, 12:19 AM
I am sure I will be the first of many who will say "Don't get married" because you are WAY too young...and I am sure you will have the one or two people who married that young and made it work who will say ease into it with caution.
However, the underlying ideal is that you NOT give up what you want to be for another person. That can breed resentment later on in life when you look back at "What could have been." You can only be a Marine up to a certain age...you can marry anytime in your life.
As for how often you will see him...what's his MOS? Some MOS's deploy more than others (Infantry, Tracks, AirCrew). My one recommendation that I hope you adhere too...if you are going to go ahead and get married anyways...just wait until AFTER a deployment. Alot of things change when your apart for that long. I had a girlfriend at 18...deployed and when I got back...things just weren't the same and we broke up soon after.
FistFu68
01-07-10, 05:01 AM
:usmc: The Family that Prays together Stays together Good Luck :usmc: :thumbup:
Marine84
01-07-10, 08:04 AM
Well..............coming from a woman's point of view - DON'T GET MARRIED YET!
You'll understand what I'm saying when you get in the fleet.
Hotel4341
01-07-10, 08:47 AM
Well..............coming from a woman's point of view - DON'T GET MARRIED YET!
You'll understand what I'm saying when you get in the fleet.
I'm sorry sis, but knowing some of the female Marines I know, I wouldn't mind a clarification of what you mean by this.
polizei
01-07-10, 11:21 AM
My good buddy got married at 18 before joining the Corps. Now he and his wife live in San Diego and are very happy together. He's 20 now, they've almost been married two years. I would get married before you join, it will make things a lot easier as far as paperwork, etc. And since he's already a Marine, you'll go to HIS duty station, and live with him there. I suggest living off base.
Best of luck!
Marine84
01-07-10, 11:29 AM
I'm sorry sis, but knowing some of the female Marines I know, I wouldn't mind a clarification of what you mean by this.
Sure :)! I was engaged when I left to go to boot camp. I loved, loved, loved this man................until I got out in the fleet (that I called "the candy store") and ran into all of that eye candy. Sorry my Brother but that's what I thought ya'll were back then - candy. ;)
Hotel4341
01-07-10, 11:44 AM
Sure :)! I was engaged when I left to go to boot camp. I loved, loved, loved this man................until I got out in the fleet (that I called "the candy store") and ran into all of that eye candy. Sorry my Brother but that's what I thought ya'll were back then - candy. ;)
Hey, I have no problem with being eye candy sis! :thumbup:
Just wanted to make sure I wasn't misreading what you wrote!
Don't get married. Wait till you both have had a few years in the Marine Corps.
ameriken
01-09-10, 06:32 PM
Lovers come and go, but the Marine Corps lasts forever.
Lisa 23
01-09-10, 06:42 PM
First off, you need to live for you, not your man. Second, if your guy loves you, he will respect your decision to be a Marine.
Don't get married. Wait till you both have had a few years in the Marine Corps.
I agree!
Don't give up 'your dream' of wanting to become a Marine, and then go through life wondering what it would have been like if you were a Marine also. If he really loves you, he'll stand by you and support you on 'your dream'....and wait for you to become a Marine.
Best of luck to you!