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Bonzack
01-01-10, 08:10 AM
Hello all,
I'm getting married to another Marine and hes stationed in Yuma, Arizona. I'm currently in Okinawa and I was wondering if when I take leave to get married if my command will move me to the states to be with him or if I would have to finish out my contract here. I have a year and 6 months left on this damn rock.
Thanks for the feedback.



OOHRAH!

Phantom Blooper
01-01-10, 08:27 AM
You will probally have to finish your tour....

The only thing in my opine would be to take this to your chain of command.

However there is no guarantee that you both will ever be stationed at the same base.

The Marine Corps says that they will try to get you both within 50 miles of each other but then again there are no set in stone guarantees.

But I would venture to say at this point and your rank that this will be a long distance relationship.

Good luck!:evilgrin:

Bonzack
01-01-10, 08:30 AM
Thank you SSgt.
That's what I was thinking too. I was also reading about a AA form but I don't think that applies to me here.
I'll be sure to bring it up my chain of command and see if I can talk to the career planner and see if theres an opening for a wireman in Yuma.

giveen
01-04-10, 09:46 AM
I guess it depends on your CO.
What unit is he in? I was in MCAS Yuma, and my command MALS-13 was actually pretty leniant.
We actually had two married couples in my shop, who were really mature about it and never let the relationship get in the way of work.

SGT7477
01-04-10, 10:09 AM
Hello all,
I'm getting married to another Marine and hes stationed in Yuma, Arizona. I'm currently in Okinawa and I was wondering if when I take leave to get married if my command will move me to the states to be with him or if I would have to finish out my contract here. I have a year and 6 months left on this damn rock.
Thanks for the feedback.



OOHRAH!
I thought the tour on Okinawa was only 13 months?:D

Gunner 0313
01-04-10, 11:42 AM
:flag:Now I know what you've been up to, LOL ! Taking the leap.

Bonzack
01-05-10, 05:03 AM
I guess it depends on your CO.
What unit is he in? I was in MCAS Yuma, and my command MALS-13 was actually pretty leniant.
We actually had two married couples in my shop, who were really mature about it and never let the relationship get in the way of work.


I don't know which unit hes going to yet, he doesnt leave for another 10 days and he has 30 days leave since hes driving there from Kentucky.
I don't think my CO will let me leave, I'm hoping on there being an opening for a wireman out there so I can request it with the career planner or with my COC. Its going to be even harder now since I just got diagnosed with moderate depression today, and they want to medicate the hell out of me. :banana: yay. NOT.

I WISH a tour on Okinawa was only 13 months!!!! That would be AMAZING.

Vandrel
01-05-10, 06:35 AM
Slim chance you'll get to PCS. There are a lot of rules within III MEF and 3rd Mar Div to prevent Marines from getting married while on leave just to PCS or get out of the barracks. It's been a...

giveen
01-05-10, 04:27 PM
Sgt, as far as I know, you do not have to ask for command approval of your marriage.

What is his MOS? Is it any of the airwinger fields? Ground side?

moto83
01-05-10, 04:34 PM
Well, this is a case of who you know. I was well liked by my oic when I got stationed and my FIANCE, not even my wife yet got a last minute orders change and sent straight to me to get married because my oic called her monitor. So it could go either way...I can't say exactly because I don't know your situation exactly but...make yourself and your issue known to the right people. My oic found out because my Cpl heard me talking about it to a friend and went to my SNCOIC and so on.

Vandrel
01-05-10, 04:37 PM
When I was there in 2004-2007 it was required. That was around the hype of when we started gold/red liberty cards and MEF had a big problem with Marines trying to get married so they could rate BAH and move out of the barracks. Most would take leave and go back home to do it then come back.

Funny thing, I remember a pair that got married, male was Cpl and female was Sgt, they were both Motor-T and one quiet night convinced the Police Sgt to switch their rooms up so they could "live together" in the barracks which had ajoining rooms. They used 1 room for the living room and the 2nd room for the bedroom. That ended real quick when the 1stSgt found out.

moto83
01-05-10, 04:40 PM
My FIANCE, not even my wife yet got stationed with me because my OIC found out about my situation through my Cpl. I was well liked and well known already so it made things easier. My OIC called her monitor and made sure she was sent to me to be married! It's all in who ya know sometimes.

giveen
01-05-10, 05:18 PM
When I was there in 2004-2007 it was required. That was around the hype of when we started gold/red liberty cards and MEF had a big problem with Marines trying to get married so they could rate BAH and move out of the barracks. Most would take leave and go back home to do it then come back.

Funny thing, I remember a pair that got married, male was Cpl and female was Sgt, they were both Motor-T and one quiet night convinced the Police Sgt to switch their rooms up so they could "live together" in the barracks which had ajoining rooms. They used 1 room for the living room and the 2nd room for the bedroom. That ended real quick when the 1stSgt found out.
What unit were you in?
I was in MALS-13 and eventually moved to MAG-13 HQ and was there from 2003-2007.

It all depends on your command.

Vandrel
01-05-10, 07:08 PM
CAB

Always a good time when your Bn CO has to go to the CG of MEF and Div and formally request them to STOP sending WM's to the unit because they are all a) getting married and causing issues or b) getting pregnant by other Marines in the barracks.

Komenko
01-05-10, 07:33 PM
I thought the tour on Okinawa was only 13 months?:D
they changed it right before i got out, single/geobachler Marines do a 2 year tour and Married Marines who bring the family to the rock gets a nice 3 year tour!

As for the OP, look on the bright side, you may be in Oki and he is in Yuma, you get Seperation Pay.....SAVE IT! Cause once you do get together and get the same or different bases within 50 miles you will need cash for an appartment or down payment on a house!

*when i went to Okinawa as my first duty station i did only 12 months :P

Bonzack
01-06-10, 05:54 AM
I'm not too worried about being seperated from him and I'm not trying to get married to get off of Okinawa. Thats just stupid, because obviously its been done before and it didn't work so whats the difference if I do it now?
His MOS is 0651. Data technical specialist smart something or other.
And I'm just a wiredog..so he makes me feel kinda retarded..anyway.
I'm with 7th comm. The chain of command here isn't..as..um..cooperative with packages/requests..pretty much anything that goes up to company will sit there until its too late to do anything. (much like my fiance's extention package)
He requested mast and it took him 8 days to actually go talk to the 1stSgt and it got shot down because they sat on it for too long.

I talked to my SNCOIC about taking leave for the month of April after I get back from Thailand because I've been having other personal issues that require me going home. I still have to talk to him about the possibility of getting married while I'm on leave but I havent had the chance to since we're doing Thailand things and I've been in and out of MHU/chaplains office.

giveen
01-06-10, 11:12 AM
So he will probably end up in my old unit or going to MACS.

0651 = Data Network Specialist.

So he will end up in MAG-13 or MALS-13 most likely and my expierence goes our CO was pretty lenient but things could have changed.

If you don't mind me asking, send me a PM, his name, and I'll ask my guys in MAG-13 to see what shop he is going to.

Vandrel
01-06-10, 12:14 PM
Should be able to see the inbound roster from MOL, don't remember if it shows specific small unit level destinations.

giveen
01-06-10, 12:33 PM
It should show on MOL for inbound, and if it doesn't show shop, but he is going to a unit, based off his MOS you can tell which shop he is going to.

Bonzack
01-15-10, 04:41 AM
Gents..I hate to be a bother, but he's worried about when he gets to the airport in Arizona hes not going to have someone to pick him up. I told him that they should know hes coming and there will be a Marine picking him up in chucks..but he won't listen. Am I right? Cause if I am I'm gonna slap him in the head when I see him.

Vandrel
01-15-10, 06:33 AM
It's not the commands responsibility to pick him up. A PCS doesn't always warrent something like that but if you call the unit and tell them you are coming in they may send a duty van for pick up.

Reason for this is because on a PCS and all official travel you are authorized travel claims, meaning he is expected to pay his own way and then he will get his money back after he checks in.

In most cases however there will be some travel plans in place by the unit and they will already have someone on standby to pick up new joins. Again, calling the unit will square that away, just call the OOD number or the S1 and you'll be set.

When I arrived in Okinawa at Kadena via MAC flight I had with me my wife, 2 huge dogs and tons of bags with no transportation. I ended up calling the duty and telling them to send someone down from Schwab to pick me up and take me to the lodge on base at Courtney. If I hadn't of done that it would have been a very expensive honcho ride from Kadena.

giveen
01-15-10, 09:24 AM
He needs to call the duty desk for MCAS and they will come pick him up.

Call 928-269-2864.

Marines come and go at a base, so no one really "knows" he is coming, unless he announces himself. So have him call that number once he arrives at the airport.

The airport is adjucent to MCAS Yuma, since technically we own the airstrips