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Jarhed87
06-18-09, 06:11 PM
In her new book, The Lonely Soldier: The Private War of Women Serving in Iraq, Helen Benedict examines the experience of female soldiers serving in the US military in Iraq and elsewhere.


Here, in an article adapted from her book, she outlines the threat of sexual violence that women face from their fellow soldiers while on the frontline, and provides testimony from three of the women she interviewed for her book.


More American women have fought and died in Iraq than in any war since World War II.
Over 206,000 have served in the Middle East since March 2003, most of them in Iraq. Some 600 have been wounded, and 104 have died.
Yet, even as their numbers increase, women soldiers are painfully alone.
In Iraq, women still only make up one in 10 troops, and because they are not evenly distributed, they often serve in a platoon with few other women or none at all.
This isolation, along with the military's traditional and deep-seated hostility towards women, can cause problems that many female soldiers find as hard to cope with as war itself - degradation and sexual persecution by their comrades, and loneliness instead of the camaraderie that every soldier depends on for comfort and survival.
Between 2006 and 2008, some 40 women who served in the Iraq War spoke to me of their experiences at war. Twenty-eight of them had been sexually harassed, assaulted or raped while serving.
They were not exceptions. According to several studies of the US military funded by the Department of Veteran Affairs, 30% of military women are raped while serving, 71% are sexually assaulted, and 90% are sexually harassed.
The Department of Defense acknowledges the problem, estimating in its 2009 annual report on sexual assault (issued last month) that some 90% of military sexual assaults are never reported.
The department claims that since 2005, its updated rape reporting options have created a "climate of confidentiality" that allows women to report without fear of being disbelieved, blamed, or punished, but the fact remains that most of the cases I describe in my book happened after the reforms of 2005.



<!--S ch1--> CHANTELLE HENNEBERRY <!--E ch1-->
Army specialist Chantelle Henneberry served in Iraq from 2005-6, with the 172nd Stryker Brigade out of Alaska.


I was the only female in my platoon of 50 to 60 men. I was also the youngest, 17.
Because I was the only female, men would forget in front of me and say these terrible derogatory things about women all the time.
I had to hear these things every day. I'd have to say 'Hey!' Then they'd look at me, all surprised, and say, 'Oh we don't mean you.'





“ I was less scared of the mortar rounds that came in every day than I was of the men who shared my food ”
Chantelle Henneberry


One of the guys I thought was my friend tried to rape me. Two of my sergeants wouldn't stop making passes at me.
Everybody's supposed to have a battle buddy in the army, and females are supposed to have one to go to the latrines with, or to the showers - that's so you don't get raped by one of the men on your own side.
But because I was the only female there, I didn't have a battle buddy. My battle buddy was my gun and my knife.
During my first few months in Iraq, my sergeant assaulted and harassed me so much I couldn't take it any more. So I decided to report him.
But when I turned him in, they said, 'The one common factor in all these problems is you. Don't see this as a punishment, but we're going to have you transferred.'
Then that same sergeant was promoted right away. I didn't get my promotion for six months.
They transferred me from Mosul to Rawah. There were over 1,500 men in the camp and less than 18 women, so it wasn't any better there than the first platoon I was in. I was fresh meat to the hungry men there.
I was less scared of the mortar rounds that came in every day than I was of the men who shared my food.
I never would drink late in the day, even though it was so hot, because the Port-a-Johns were so far away it was dangerous.
So I'd go for 16 hours in 140-degree heat and not drink. I just ate Skittles to keep my mouth from being too dry.
I collapsed from dehydration so often I have IV track lines from all the times they had to re-hydrate me.


<!--S ch1--> MICKIELA MONTOYA <!--E ch1-->
Army specialist Mickiela Montoya served in Iraq for 11 months from 2005-6, with the California National Guard. She was 19 years old.


The whole time I was in Iraq I was in a daze the whole time I was there 'cause I worked nights and I was shot at every night.
Mortars were coming in - and mortars is death! When they say only men are allowed on the front lines, that's the biggest crock of ****! I was a gunner! But when I say I was in the war, nobody listens. Nobody believes I was a soldier. And you know why? Because I'm a female.
There are only three things the guys let you be if you're a girl in the military - a *****, a ho, or a dyke. You're a ***** if you won't sleep with them. A ho if you've even got one boyfriend. A dyke if they don't like you. So you can't win.





“ I wasn't carrying the knife for the enemy, I was carrying it for the guys on my own side ”
Mickiela Montoya


A lot of the men didn't want us there. One guy told me the military sends women soldiers over to give the guys eye-candy to keep them sane.
He told me in Vietnam they had prostitutes, but they don't have those in Iraq, so they have women soldiers instead.
At the end of my shift one night, I was walking back to my trailer with this guy who was supposed to be my battle buddy when he said: 'You know, if I was to rape you right now nobody could hear you scream, nobody would see you. What would you do?'
'I'd stab you.'
'You don't have a knife,' he said to me.
'Oh yes I do.'
Actually I didn't have one, but after that, I always carried one.
I practiced how to take it out of my pocket and swing it out fast. But I wasn't carrying the knife for the enemy, I was carrying it for the guys on my own side.


<!--S ch1--> MARTI RIBEIRO <!--E ch1-->
Air Force Sergeant Marti Ribeiro was assaulted by a fellow serviceman while she was on duty in Afghanistan in 2006.


It's taken me more than a year to realise that it wasn't my fault, so I didn't tell anyone about it.
The military has a way of making females believe they brought this upon themselves. That's wrong.
There's an unwritten code of silence when it comes to sexual assault in the military.
But if this happened to me and nobody knew about it, I know it's happening to other females as well.


Adapted from The Lonely Soldier: The Private War of Women Serving in Iraq by Helen Benedict, just released from Beacon Press.



Story from BBC NEWS:

Pete0331
06-18-09, 08:58 PM
The military is very much a boys culture.
Always has been always will be.


Because I was the only female, men would forget in front of me and say these terrible derogatory things about women all the time.
I had to hear these things every day. I'd have to say 'Hey!' Then they'd look at me, all surprised, and say, 'Oh we don't mean you.'

Big deal.
That's not sexual harassment.
That's the way the culture is.
Women say they don't want to be treated differently, but complain when they aren't treated differently.

I don't see any Marines mentioned in that article.
This sexual harassment issue is a continuation of personal discipline.

This problem is not going to go away.
Yet there is still a push for more women in combat arms units.

Pete0331
06-18-09, 09:07 PM
I need to add that ANY sexual harassment is wrong and needs to be punished with harshest extent of the military justice system.

Sgt0231
06-18-09, 09:28 PM
Women have always been disregarded in the military.

But you know what, there are women in the military who give other women bad names by some of the unruly acts they pull... aka whining, getting pregnant to avoid deployment, being slutty and sleeping with every guy in sight... believe me, there were chicks in my old unit who did the aforementioned things.

But there are your guys who think they are God's gift to women and think it's OK to throw themselves on any girl they see. Ive had guys come on to me before plenty of times, but I'm mentally stronger than a lot of other women and can tell them to **** off with no harm done... and the fact my husband is 6'3 and can probably beat the **** out of them.

Reminds me of the time I worked at the Ramadi DetFac with the Army where a female soldier was badmouthing Marines RIGHT in front of me... let's just say we took our argument outside...

While I'm rambling on here (I'm on duty right now so I have the time), let me also add that sexual harassment is completely wrong and must be dealt with at the fullest extent of the law (agree w/Pete), but let's make sure we know what sexual harassment really is before we take an allegation up to our chain of command or EO representative. I've seen a couple of Marines' careers flushed down the toilet because of some questionable allegations of harassment by some pretty promiscuous individuals. I'm not saying the above individual's stories are not true, but there are some risky people out there who would do it for revenge. Not everyone's an angel.

:banana:

Pete0331
06-18-09, 09:43 PM
I was hoping a WM would comment on this.
Different perspective.
I can only comment on what I've seen looking in.



I've seen a couple of Marines' careers flushed down the toilet because of some questionable allegations of harassment by some pretty promiscuous individuals. I'm not saying the above individual's stories are not true, but there are some risky people out there who would do it for revenge. Not everyone's an angel.


I saw this more then I saw any real sexual harassment.
Mostly from civilians.
Some crazy civi girl wants to get back at you by saying she was raped, or domestically abused, and your life is over.

I saw females from all services get away with more then any male would.
Prostitution rings would get busted, and nothing would happen.
Fraternization would be happening, and no one would do anything about it.

Isrowei
06-18-09, 10:15 PM
This book is a pandering meant only to play to sympathetic audiences. It's not objective and uses statistics that are widely known to be cooked.

It is a matter of fact that rape happens. Yes it is deplorable. But for once, just an ever-lovin' once, I'd like to see a book written on domestic abuse against males and the culture of silence surrounding it.

I won't hold my breath.

Petz
06-19-09, 12:56 AM
yes sir, I agree.

that female blew things out of proportion in the first section. didn't drink 'cause she was scared so she has track marks from IVs.... you'd get sent home if you had to get juiced up that much....

this is why women don't belong in combat period! and not to mention the Armys retarded 14 month deployment cycle... it just increases the chances of rape...

maybe if you trained your women like the Marines do, you'd give the guys a reason to think twice before trying to rape a fellow soldier... stupid Army...

these girls were so jumpy... imagine this.

you're walking past the girl and you reconize her and you say "hey!! I missed you at chow..."

and the next thing you know (since you spooked her) you're getting stabbed repeatedly by your friend who thinks you're gonna rape her.

I think these women are trying to get money...