Marriage and MOS?

[ItsARUSH2221]

I'm a brand new BOOT Marine, very proud to have trained at our Beautiful Depot, and was just wondering the policy towards having your spouse live with you during MOS training. Is it allowed? I have heard both yes, as well as no. Any information will be very helpfull. Thanks

[ItsARUSH2221]

Also, as i failed to mention. I'll be in Florida for ATC training.

[sadibenz]

I think you will have to request special quarters at the base housing area or off base. It used to be very frond upon for your spouse to accompany you during training of any kind. Infact, it was discouraged most of the time. You could probably arrange off base housing at your own expense. Of course, you may not be there with her much either.
Sorry if that hurts.
But, there used to be an old saying, If the Corps wanted you to have a spouse, they would have issued you one.
Good Luck

[marine3043]

dump her, there are to many problems with pfcs and lcpls that are married.

[davblay]

dump her, there are to many problems with pfcs and lcpls that are married.


Kind of reminds me of an old saying I heard somewhere.

"A BABY SPENDS 9 MONTHS TRYING TO GET OUT OF THERE, AND THE MALES SPEND THE REST OF THIER LIVES TRYING TO GET BACK IN ONE"!

Go Figure!

Dave

[Achped]

But Dave Icant think of any other place I'd rather be!

[sparkie]

But Dave Icant think of any other place I'd rather be!
I hear that's wet and wild,,,,,,,

[MrsNix]

You will be busy, Dear.

Depending on the length of your training school, you and your wife need to view this as a deployment and suck it up apart.

You just finished swimming your way out of the deep end. It is now your wife's turn. Her job, which we spouses all learn sooner or later, is to wait and maintain the marriage and marital home while you are gone.

Better that her first separation from you take place while she only has to figure out how to get through missing you...rather than fearing for your life on top of learning how to be married and faithful without you around.

Unless you're going to a school that will separate you longer than a year...leave her at home. This is your "freebie" as a couple to learn how this is all going to go and figure out how to maintain your marriage during long absence. It will happen over and over again over your tenure with the USMC, and this will be the lowest-stress separation you will EVER have. Take advantage of it. Learn from it. Use it as an opportunity to grow into this life.

If your wife can't handle THIS...you are in big big trouble.

That is my advice.

[Idena]

You will be busy, Dear.

Depending on the length of your training school, you and your wife need to view this as a deployment and suck it up apart.

You just finished swimming your way out of the deep end. It is now your wife's turn. Her job, which we spouses all learn sooner or later, is to wait and maintain the marriage and marital home while you are gone.

Better that her first separation from you take place while she only has to figure out how to get through missing you...rather than fearing for your life on top of learning how to be married and faithful without you around.

Unless you're going to a school that will separate you longer than a year...leave her at home. This is your "freebie" as a couple to learn how this is all going to go and figure out how to maintain your marriage during long absence. It will happen over and over again over your tenure with the USMC, and this will be the lowest-stress separation you will EVER have. Take advantage of it. Learn from it. Use it as an opportunity to grow into this life.

If your wife can't handle THIS...you are in big big trouble.

That is my advice.
I'm going to out-and-out disagree with this.

There will be enough times when your separation from your spouse is mandatory. Better to spend as much time as you are able living together, building your marriage, if you can manage it (Meaning you are permitted to do so & can arrange it financially.). No one has to learn to be faithful - you choose to be faithful, so the circumstances of the separation should have little to do with fidelity.

[DobbinsBlythe]

Honestly, it's very possible for her to live NEAR you. You will probably be MADE to live in batchelor housing. I knew a Marine who was in MOS school with my husband. His wife chose to live off base and used their BAH from their home state to pay for it--because unless your MOS school is longer than a certain period of time, it won't be allowed. However, I think It might be close to a year that it becomes allowed. You might want to research that. I used to know the exact times, but I have no idea anymore.

You won't be guaranteed liberty to go home. You will be confined a lot to your barracks.. however, having your wife nearby may help, as long as she's not the type to cause a distraction--allowing marital issues to take precedence over the Corps isn't exactly permissible. I hope that she's realized she's Married to the Corps and not just to you.

I hope this helps.

BTW.. to the jerk who says to DUMP HER?! This is a spouse forum. If you don't like spouses, I'd suggest you hop on off of here. My 2 cents. I was married to my husband while he was a LCpl. We were engaged prior to his entry to the Corps.

We're still together and probably the strongest couple I've EVER met.

Everyone's situation is different and to make a statement like "dump her" to a Marine who has already chosen marriage 1. is disrespectful, and 2. is immature.

People make their own decisions. That's how life is.

If I had listened to all the idiots out there who told me to dump my now husband and told me that I'd be more trouble to him than support then I'm sure that life would pretty much suck for me, and for him. I'm 100% committed to making our marriage the best it can be, and to making his life a million times better than it would be if I weren't in it.

Don't ever doubt a hard-headed Marine wife. We always win. Just the way it works.

Again, please remember that this section of the forums is a SPOUSE forum. Try not to offend us SPOUSES.

[PaidinBlood]

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:yes::yes:

[ringoffire]

It does depend on how long the MOS school is...you have to research that. I never went with The Husband when he was in school, it was only a few months and the moving would have been too much of a hassel. We move enough, I don't need to add to that. I know many spouses that follow thier husbands to MOS schools, but I don't think the expense is worth it....especially when you are just starting out, save the money

[DocGreek]

"Love is a burning ring...a ring of FIRE!", Mr. Johnny Cash.....DOC

[Supersquishy]

I'd wait until you at least are in the Fleet, your going to have too much stuff to deal with while in school, you don't need the extra stress. I'd have her visit Mom and Dad, it'll keep her preoccupied.