I need help coping

[WorriedMother]

Hello all

My daughter is shipping out very soon to Parris Island and I am very nervous. I know she is going in for the wrong reasons, but she won't listen to me. She's not a very commited individual and has a hard time following things through and doing what she needs. She is 20 years old and still very immature. My biggest fear is that she'll hate being "stuck" for 4 years in something she doesn't like or want. As her mother, I don't want her to suffer. I don't want her to be hurt! And I know she will and she tries to tell me everything is okay, but I am just so scared. She is my oldest and she is my only daughter. She tells me that the Marine Corp is her "golden ticket" to start a new life and achieve the things she wants to, but there are so many other ways to achieve her dreams than to give away 4 years of her life. Please, I respect the Military, especially the Marine Corps...but I think my daughter does not belong there.

Is there anybody feeling the same way or similar? Any advice on how to cope with this? I need help.

[003XXMarineDAD]

It sounds like she has her sights on being a Marine. My she have the good luck and guts to make it. At twenty years old it is time to let her make her road to go on and sucess or fail it will be hers to make it.
We as parents have to at a time cut the ties and let our sons and daughters make their own road.
Good luck to your daughter and you If she makes it you will have reason to be proud of her and never hide that pride.

[Finger]

Big hello from San Antonio Larua,
It's time she uses what you taught her.
Trust in the Lord and her too.
S/F
Finger

[Proffitt]

You can't sail to new lands unless you're willing to lose sight of the shore. She'll be fine.

[marine2103]

Hi there- your daughter sounds almost identical to me! i am the only daughter and the oldest of five kids.My mom has the same worries as you do and does not support me.Probably the only difference between your daughter and myself is our ages (16),our attitudes,and our goals for the Corps.What are her reasons for joining? Mine are as follows: the guys ( I plan marriage early;short life),the rigor, toughness, domineering attitude and the pride.I love the uniforms and stuff. and i promise to make my country proud.Next june I too will ship out to Parris,known as the most dreaded place to train for the USMC.am i ready? oh ya,I'm training physically and mentally, memorizing traditions and chants and lingo (so I'm smart),running,studying and reading.I love every aspect of the corps and what it offers. I KNOW your worries;again you sound like my mom.Now that your daughter is an adult,you have virtually lost her.If she won't listen now,she probably won't unless she is devastated.The attitude she bears is a NO-NO!!! Its a big NO-NO!!The DI will break her.She will be crushed and other stuff....no, its not what you want,but experience is a very hard teacher! I know, i deal with it constantly and try to work things out myself.I have the same problem as she does...tho I am very driven,committed to my decisions and not afraid to admit my faults.I'm new here,but when i saw your post i felt I had to respond.no,i'm not a marine yet,but next summer i will be. Show her my post and tell her if she really wants to go-fine,but don't come crying for help when things don't work out.She needs to grow up. If its what she wants..... Don't worry-my family are Christians and I would gladly pray with you should you desire it.Just trust Christ,if she belongs to him it will all work out.Good luck and Semper Fi.

[WorriedMother]

Hi there- your daughter sounds almost identical to me! i am the only daughter and the oldest of five kids.My mom has the same worries as you do and does not support me.Probably the only difference between your daughter and myself is our ages (16),our attitudes,and our goals for the Corps.What are her reasons for joining? Mine are as follows: the guys ( I plan marriage early;short life),the rigor, toughness, domineering attitude and the pride.I love the uniforms and stuff. and i promise to make my country proud.Next june I too will ship out to Parris,known as the most dreaded place to train for the USMC.am i ready? oh ya,I'm training physically and mentally, memorizing traditions and chants and lingo (so I'm smart),running,studying and reading.I love every aspect of the corps and what it offers. I KNOW your worries;again you sound like my mom.Now that your daughter is an adult,you have virtually lost her.If she won't listen now,she probably won't unless she is devastated.The attitude she bears is a NO-NO!!! Its a big NO-NO!!The DI will break her.She will be crushed and other stuff....no, its not what you want,but experience is a very hard teacher! I know, i deal with it constantly and try to work things out myself.I have the same problem as she does...tho I am very driven,committed to my decisions and not afraid to admit my faults.I'm new here,but when i saw your post i felt I had to respond.no,i'm not a marine yet,but next summer i will be. Show her my post and tell her if she really wants to go-fine,but don't come crying for help when things don't work out.She needs to grow up. If its what she wants..... Don't worry-my family are Christians and I would gladly pray with you should you desire it.Just trust Christ,if she belongs to him it will all work out.Good luck and Semper Fi.

My daugther has nothing in common with you. She is not joining because of stupid supercilious reasons such as GUYS and UNIFORMS. You have a lot to learn dear and you are still very young and immature.

You asked why she wants to join...well she wants to join because she can no longer afford college and she doesn't want to live with her parents. She wants to be a musician and she know she can get playing experience from the Corps and that they will help pay for her music education degree after her four years. But I just want her to pick another path that doesn't make her commit her life to something for 4 years. Once she gets out of the Corps, she's going to be very behind on her bachelor's degree. And I am afraid she'll be miserable in the Corps and won't make it through college afterwards. I don't think deep down inside she really wants this, she's just looking for a way out of her current situation. She says she does and is very determined to go and try to join the Corps, I'm just very afraid for her.

[Finger]

I finished my degrees in the Corps. The tuition assistance was outstanding in my day. (90% with good grades) I bet they still have it. If she goes to one of the Bands she will be encouraged to continue her education.

I get the feeling you think we are or where all big nasty door kickers. Well I was, but there are a whole lot of educated Marines out there with highly technical skills.

S/F
Finger

[Brewer0311]

Your daughter's reasons sound just like mine. I ran in to a speed bump with colelge and didn't want to live off my parents. I was also the same way with getting things done, staying commited and the other things that go with it. Been in a little over a year. Going strong and love it. I get my duties done quickly and proficiently while keeping a good attitude. At first (during boot and SOI) I felt I may have made a mistake. In reality I think it was just the adapting to the Corps and learning what exactly needed to be done and in what way. I'm sure everything will work out for her and your family.

[SgtHopperUSMC]

Your daughter's reasons sound just like mine. I ran in to a speed bump with colelge and didn't want to live off my parents. I was also the same way with getting things done, staying commited and the other things that go with it. Been in a little over a year. Going strong and love it. I get my duties done quickly and proficiently while keeping a good attitude. At first (during boot and SOI) I felt I may have made a mistake. In reality I think it was just the adapting to the Corps and learning what exactly needed to be done and in what way. I'm sure everything will work out for her and your family.Was that speed bump spelling?:nerd: Sorry couldnt help it.

[Isrowei]

Tuition assistance is 100% now.

I also got my college while in the Corps. 11 years later and I'm still here.

I understand your fears, but she's 20 years old. You should let her be her own person.

If you were my mother, I'd be telling you to back off. Incidentally, I did that with my own mother, but in a much nicer way. You may view it as love and concern, but I'll bet she feels its smothering and holding her back.

Let her go and encourage her to succeed. If she truly doesn't belong, she'll find that out on her own.

[SlingerDun]

I don't think deep down inside she really wants this, she's just looking for a way out of her current situation. She says she does and is very determined to go and try to join the CorpsAnd what would you insist she do, remain in your house and under your skirts where you can keep an eye on her as she feels stifled and grows resentful? Good Luck on her venture!!! It sounds like her reasons for joining are good enough for her, the Corps will be the proving grounds and if she stumbles or happens to fail, at least she jumped into the rapids and gave it a run.

Young people have been joining the Corps to escape from something or another and start anew since the beginning, and what sound like lame reasons for joining are enough to get them started in a life changing experience which becomes more complex and meaningful.

Perhaps hard to imagine for some, but the Marine Corps saves young lives, and it happens every day.

--->Dave

[LeonardLawrence]

worriedmother,

Appreciate your concern and don't mean to make light of it. Sounds like your daughter is following through...for her own reasons, by her own choice.

You should encourage her and support her. You spent 20 years of both your live making sure she was ready for life. Here is a pretty big test of that training.

Good luck to both of you. My recommendation is that you join some kind of parents group and keep your negative comments regarding your daughters future to yourself.

I can speak from being in a similar type situation...negative words...they just added fuel to my fire. :D

And as has been stated she can do the educational thing in the Corps. If she doesn't like it...in four years she can run away and join the convent, the circus or whatever she desires....with a real understanding of who she is and where she is going.

[FistFu68]

:evilgrin: MOM,IF YOU HAD BEEN A MARINE;YOU WOULDN'T BE IN THE PERDICAMENT YOU ARE IN.WORRYING IS GOOD,CAUSE IT SHOW'S YOU LOVE HER.SHE WILL BE FINE,YOU'LL COME TOO KNOW YOU'R DAUGHTER AS A FINE WOMAN.SEMPER~FI~THAT:usmc: :iwo:

[Phantom Blooper]

marine2103 Mine are as follows: the guys ( I plan marriage early;short life),the rigor, toughness, domineering attitude and the pride.I love the uniforms and stuff.

Stay home and grow up....you can get laid by a sanitation worker in uniform! Maybe you may change your goals!

:evilgrin:

[sparkie]

HAHAHAHA, Sanitation worker,,, Youy know they get paid more? LMAO.

[gwladgarwr]

My daugther has nothing in common with you. She is not joining because of stupid supercilious reasons such as GUYS and UNIFORMS. You have a lot to learn dear and you are still very young and immature.

She's just looking for a way out of her current situation. She says she does and is very determined to go and try to join the Corps, I'm just very afraid for her.

Ma'am:

You have a lot of very experienced and wizened Marines on this site, including the young ones. You asked for advice and opinions, and you got it. The usual response is not to insult Marines and call them "young and immature". The condescending attitude I sense from you regarding the military and the Marines is the only immature thing I'm getting here.

Tying herself to four years of doing something? Have you ever had a job outside the home for four years? I know I have. How about your daughter tying herself to four years of NOTHING but regret, depression, frustration, exhaustion, or misery? Let your daughter make a decision on her own for once in her life and let her WANT to grow up. She's already made that decision by joining the Marine Corps. She knows the responsibility she's taking on and she is fully aware of the obligation she is taking on by "signing her life away for four years." It's called "taking responsibility for oneself."

All this talk about GI Bill and tuition reimbursement is just a distraction. Benefits are there, sure. But, the Marine Corps is not an "escape hatch". If you can't or won't do for youself, I think it would be fair not to expect the Marine Corps to do it for you. She may well have other reasons for joining the Marine Corps that have nothing to do with the "bennies". It's those intangibles that her school life, social circle, her church, etc. are not able to provide that she may really be after. Things such as pride in oneself, pride in our country, pride for caring for someone else other than oneself, responsibility, integrity, self-discipline - if these such things are what she's after and has joined the Corps to find them, that only implies that she hasn't found them where she is now in her life.

Far be it for me to stand in her way.

The old saying "Lead, follow, or get out of the way" applies here. It appears she wants to lead - at least be leader of her own destiny. Give her a big hug and tell her you love her for that - and don't send her cookies at boot camp.

Just for the record, I got my undergraduate degree BEFORE I joined the Marine Corps and I got my graduate degree WHILE I was in the Marine Corps (and am still there.) I'm working on my PhD now and planning to put it to use in the Corps, not in the corporate world or in academics. The Marine Corps will back you up if you show initiative toward yourself AND toward the Corps.

Your daughter has taken that first step toward initiative - by taking control of her life while also looking beyond herself and her own needs. Don't bag your daughter for that - back her up 100% for growing a backbone and taking ownership of her life. That's what you want for her, isn't it?

You worry as Moms are supposed to do. Just take care not to make your worries for her become HER worries.

Sgt gw:flag:

[Sgt Leprechaun]

My daugther has nothing in common with you. She is not joining because of stupid supercilious reasons such as GUYS and UNIFORMS. You have a lot to learn dear and you are still very young and immature.

You asked why she wants to join...well she wants to join because she can no longer afford college and she doesn't want to live with her parents. She wants to be a musician and she know she can get playing experience from the Corps and that they will help pay for her music education degree after her four years. But I just want her to pick another path that doesn't make her commit her life to something for 4 years. Once she gets out of the Corps, she's going to be very behind on her bachelor's degree. And I am afraid she'll be miserable in the Corps and won't make it through college afterwards. I don't think deep down inside she really wants this, she's just looking for a way out of her current situation. She says she does and is very determined to go and try to join the Corps, I'm just very afraid for her.


Ma'am:

First off, some of the best Marines I've known joined for 'stupid supercilious reasons'. What, you think everyone is some high and mighty patriot? Or something else? She's 20, and sounds perfectly fine to me. Everyone has their own reasons for joining the Marines, and she has hers.

Cut the freakin apron strings.

She'll grow up, and become more mature than you will have ever hoped. She'll get to do and see things that most young people only see in video games, or call 'extreme sports' and pay to do. Instead of sitting on the sidelines, or living in your basement becoming just another ******* with a BA degree in hand painted hair nets or basket weaving or modern folk dance, she'll become part of the new 'Band of Brothers'. If she is good enough to make it into one of the bands, that fact alone will get her well on her way to becoming a professional musician, if that is what she wants to do. Then again, she might find another career path. Either way, once she earns the title, Marine, its' something no one can take away from her.

Your attitude, (why can't she do something better...wasting four years, etc etc) is typical but not surprising these days. Tossing insults at Marines wins you no points here, just as in Sparta, everyone here is held accountable for their words. That's Marine culture, and that's the way we are. That's the way we are taught, and that's the way your daughter will be. While we may trade insults with one another, we've EARNED that right.

You....have not. Consider this a mild rebuke and a lesson on manners. Take it for what you will.

[sgt tony]

Mom you have got her to 20, and now she wants to go out to the world. Give her a chance to do something she wants.
I joined to get the heck away from my parents and i stayed for 12 years. Went to school (college) while i was in and they paid for my degree.
Mom I know it is hard but she will need your support in what she has now signed up to do. It is not easy and let me say this if you get it easy you don't care if you lose it but if it takes all you can give to get some thing then you are more likely that will will keep it for the price that you have to have paid for it.
Mom just back off and support her that is what she needs form you.

[Osotogary]

WorriedMother,
The first thing that comes to my mind is that the Marine Corps, as well as any Armed Force, is a military service. Somehow, this little tidbit of information often times gets lost in the information shuffle. I hope that your daughter has been well briefed before she signed on.
Regardless, the deed has been done and it would be in your best interest to support your daughter. There are thousands apon thousands of stories of parents and loved ones overcome with pride as their sons and daughters complete the transformation known as Boot Camp. You might have even heard of the graduates saying to their parents or loved ones, "Thank you for all the supportive letters, they really helped me get through my training."
Don't miss out on this opportunity to work as a supportive team member with your daughter. Take one step at a time. Your daughter will be doing the same.
"...give away 4 years of her life." I don't know about that; that may just be your idea of how the world should be turning in reference to, perhaps, the plans that you had for your daughter.
How about the idea that she is contributing four years of her life?
Try to be as positive as you can. It will enrich you.
Best of luck to you both.
Gary

[Brewer0311]

Was that speed bump spelling?:nerd: Sorry couldnt help it.

Money and English actually lol! Just got off work and was in a bit of a hurry to respond and give a little advice. Have to have a life off the computer too :D

[Proffitt]

marine2103 Mine are as follows: the guys ( I plan marriage early;short life),the rigor, toughness, domineering attitude and the pride.I love the uniforms and stuff.

Stay home and grow up....you can get laid by a sanitation worker in uniform! Maybe you may change your goals!

:evilgrin:

HAHAHAH....That's what I'm talking about. When I read that a few days back, I just rolled my eyes and thought back to the matresses in MOS school....not the real matresses.....you know what I'm talking about..haha.

[tntmondy]

I joined the Marine Corps when I was 17 and a senior in high school. I was desperate to get out of the house and couldn't stand the thought of 4 more years of school. I picked the Marine Corps because the Air Force recruiter didn't impress me, the Navy, well lets just say that there was NO WAY I was wearing bell bottoms, The Army, to disorganized for me. The Marine Corps had the best uniforms! The hot guys were just a bonus. So I guess my reasons weren't all of the best, however it was THE BEST DESCISION OF MY LIFE. The dumbest decision I ever made was getting out. If she is not cut out for the Marine Corps her Drill Instructors will definetly find that out. She may just surprise you! It is natural to be worried, but there are worse decisions she could make. I wish her luck, at boot camp

[Wyoming]

I joined the Marine Corps when I was 17 and a senior in high school. I was desperate to get out of the house and couldn't stand the thought of 4 more years of school. I picked the Marine Corps because the Air Force recruiter didn't impress me, the Navy, well lets just say that there was NO WAY I was wearing bell bottoms, The Army, to disorganized for me. The Marine Corps had the best uniforms! The hot guys were just a bonus. So I guess my reasons weren't all of the best, however it was THE BEST DESCISION OF MY LIFE. The dumbest decision I ever made was getting out. If she is not cut out for the Marine Corps her Drill Instructors will definetly find that out. She may just surprise you! It is natural to be worried, but there are worse decisions she could make. I wish her luck, at boot camp

Samo samo!!

Also, there were mattresses at all bases, even in the RVN. The Navy & AF gals were the ones that come to mind the quickest, especially around the 1st of November. They liked the BD party.
:cool:


One other thing, to WorriedMom, why don't you turn your Daughter on to this site. She is 20, AND, if she cops an attitude or whatever, the WM's will drop kick her a bit, not to mention the MM's.

[Phantom Blooper]

HAHAHAH....That's what I'm talking about. When I read that a few days back, I just rolled my eyes and thought back to the mattresses in MOS school....not the real matresses.....you know what I'm talking about..haha.

I remember the mattresses when I was stationed at Kanaohe,HI with 2/3.Some of the mattresses had bed bugs that bit.....you know what I'm talking about..haha. SHAME ON ME! LOL!

Proffitt, some of my posts over the years have been deleted.....and some not.....because I am a firm believer in telling a person to go to hell and make them enjoy packing for the trip! That's TACT! God,I love those leadership traits and principles! :beer:

:evilgrin:

[Phantom Blooper]

Yes Ma'am!:beer: God I love the Marine Corps MOM's,WIVE's & wimmen! Now that's LOVE!:beer:

:evilgrin:

[Proffitt]

I remember the mattresses when I was stationed at Kanaohe,HI with 2/3.Some of the mattresses had bed bugs that bit.....you know what I'm talking about..haha. SHAME ON ME! LOL!

Proffitt, some of my posts over the years have been deleted.....and some not.....because I am a firm believer in telling a person to go to hell and make them enjoy packing for the trip! That's TACT! God,I love those leadership traits and principles! :beer:

:evilgrin:

When I read your reply, something came to mind...."A Few Good Men"....
""You can't handle the Truth!"" haha. Sometimes, actually all of the time, I just want the damn truth. Don't sugar coat it...it tastes way worse when after the first bite the sweetness goes away.:(

[Marine84]

I agree with all these other Marines. I'm a woman now but, back when I was your daughter's age, I went in the Corps for the very same reasons. I did 2 years of school and couldn't see it going any further, working dead end jobs just to pay for that school and wasn't having ANY fun along the way. I had NEVER commited to anything to achieve anything. I decided to join the Corps and it was THE best thing I EVER did for myself, I grew up in the process AND I had fun along the way. My Mother secretly thought I wouldn't make it either - the longer you tell her that, the harder she's going to prove to you that she can. LET HER AND SUPPORT HER WITH ALL OF YOUR HEART like my Mother did and you will be AMAZED at what the Corps will send home to you after only 3 months at Parris Island.

[jahhead88]

Mam:

I'm a counselor by profession, and would say the worry your feelings is normal. However, I would also say that you appear to be looking at this as a 100% negative event.

I see some similarites with how my mom was when I was getting ready for bootcamp. You said you want her to pick a path that doesn't involve a four year commitment. Like what? Also, you said you were afraid she was going to be miserable in the Corps. O.k., is this based on your own personal feelings. If your daughter wants to be miserable in the Corps that's her choice. I'm a firm believer in something Abraham Lincolns said that people are as miserable or happy as they make up their minds to be. (paraphrased).

I'm just going to come straight to the point. After reading your post, I'm wondering if you're more afraid for your daughter or yourself? Say she spends four years in, and get's out and picks up where she left off. You say she'll be behind on her bachelors degree. I doubt that. There are plenty of opportunities to continue your education in the Corps to include online classes. If your daughter doesn't progress in getting her degree, than the responsibility for that rests on her.

That's the great thing about the Corps, you are responsible for how far you go or don't go. And quite frankly, your post comes across as if you're blaming the Marines for any future problems she might get herself into. I would suggest you get a book entitled, " Above and Beyond." It is about former Marines that have gone on to successful careers in the business world and elsewhere.

You're worried about your daughter. O.k., well that to me means your a good mother. However, this is a choice she made; you may not agree with it, but at the same time, don't focus only on what you perceive as negatives. Her joining the Corps, while you might think as a bad thing, might not be so bad for her in the long run.

Jahhead88

[Artemis]

She will be fine. She may not like it at times but I believe that it will make a difference in her outlook on life. If she wishes to talk to someone who has been through becoming a WM send her my way. Im only 23 so I think that since she and I are close in age that I may be able to give her some advice. Good Luck and I hope that things turn out well.

[miclash1]

for the worried mom,

my son just graduated from PI. on Dec 7th. it was the proudest day of my life. he too had little direction before he went in. he was a great kid and never got into trouble, but was unsure what he wanted. since he sigened the papers to join, he has been so focused. i understand your worries as a parent. i too had some of the same feelings. but once i started getting into the Marine Family, things changed for me as well. there have been some that have been bashing you on this site. some of the remarks you made were a little off color. they need to cut you a little slack, and explain things a little better for you. not everyone knows the Marine life, or the Marine mentality. though it is a great one, not everyone understands it. cut her a little break, it sounds to me that she is looking for a little advice. she is just a worried mother, who is losing her oldest daughter to the Marines. i am sure she is just acting like other mothers have .... just let her go, and you will be the proudest mother in the world after 13 weeks.

there was no father more proud then i was... now my son feels like he has a purpose in life. in one of his letters to me, he said thank you for supporting him 100%. with out me doing that he would have failed. his mother was worried as well, and has since seen the light ( for lack of a better term ).

good luck, and my prayers are with your daughter....

michael

[rktect3j]

I just want to touch on the "being behind after 4 years in the Corps".

For me, I can tell you truthfully, that if I had not quit college at 21 and joined the Corps to become a Marine, I NEVER would have gone back into college to get my degree after my 4 years. I had no discipline or direction in life prior to joining. I found out a lot about myself and what I wanted and what I am capable of. The Corps will give your daughter a sight you really can not comprehend. She will become more focused in what she does and how she does it. And then you will understand.

So 4 years behind, is backwards thinking. I am far ahead of where I was going to be.

Stay positive, if she wants to go, she will go and being positive will help her mentally overcome the challenge.

[Old Marine]

Time to cut the cord.

[usmc1953]

Been awhile, but i have been there & done that! i am sure a lot of us have been there as well. i my situation i had no direction in my life. i was confused & had no real purpose in mind for my future. boot camp was a huge wake up call! i was quite frankly stripped bare of all i had known before & rebuilt. i came out of boot camp with the knowledge that i could do what i wanted to do. i had self worth & the tools to succeed, which were sorely lacking before. i came from a dysfunctional family with out guidance & love. the marine corps taught me self reliance & team work & above all to have pride in myself & what i do.
the moral of this dissertation is quite frankly, you need to support your daughter in her endeavors, what ever they may be. there will be bumps along the way, but that is the nature of life. it is not so much what you do in life but it is how you react to what you do that makes the difference. she desperately needs your support & love at this time in her life, give it freely with out any reservations. four years is a small price to pay for getting ones life on track. believe it or not you could be looking at a changed person in a few short months. a person with a new outlook on life & a bright future. as has been mentioned in previous posts there are educational opportunities in the marine corps, one needs to just take advantage of them.
i wish you & your daughter well in the future. you can be part of it or not that is your decision. she needs to know that you are behind her 100%!

[Sgt Leprechaun]

It would seem that we have scared the poor woman away....

LOL.

Sorry 'bout that. Hopefully, though, she got some good intel from all of us.

[kmd60]

From one worried Mom to another....hang in there. There is no easy way to handle the "not knowing" of what is going on during those long 12 weeks, but rest assured things have a way of working out the way they are meant.:iwo:
My son, has just returned from his deployment in Anbar, and I managed to make it through (ha, ha)...as well as his deployment in Afghan...
The Marine Corps is the best thing that happened to him....I was no sure when he asked that I sign the papers when he was 17, but now at 24, I am so grateful to him for making that decision. He is in college, doing well, and finishing the last 3 years of his commitment.....

Trust her and the Corps...:flag:

[SlaveToTheCorps]

"Never Be Afraid To Do Something New...Remember, Amateurs Built The Ark & Professionals Built The Titanic" -Unknown

[jahhead88]

I think she needs to relax, and chill out.

[T-no]

There is really no need to worry. She may be immature right now, and be in it for the uniforms, but once there, its a different story. I can speak from experience. going in last year as someone who...

[SSgt Blue]

The hardest part of being the parent or a loved one of a Marine is to allow them to make decisions for themselves. The Corps will never lead their boys or girls astray. Just know that what you have instilled in her will not only bennefit her but those who will serve with her. If she has half the concern that you have many will owe their lives to her as well to others.
HM2 Rye

[SSgt Blue]

Ok now for my take, How old is she? It is time to let her go and liver her life. If you cant understand why she made the choices she has made then in time you will. Mom, look at it this way, at least she wont be a mud Marine.

[sparkie]

Meebe you should write a 'Dear Chili'

[Marine84]

Meebe you should write a 'Dear Chili'

LMAO!

[Osotogary]

Seems to me, after all these days since her original post, that the good WorriedMother, for her own personal reasons, no longer wishes to engage in informative and supportive civil dialog between those who have been there, done that and herself. What a shame but that is her own decision.
I thought that when I opened up this thread I would find some up to date information from WorriedMother about her daughter's progress. Dammm, just when you start giving a sh*t about someone the information gate closes.
All I can say is, "Young lady, Marine recruit - All the best to you for the path that you have chosen. May your will and fortitude see you through to the day when you can claim the title United States Marine."

[CHOPPER7199]

Maybe Our Worried People Read Alot Of Info On This Site And Figure They Will Not Have Their Son Or Daughter Hook Up With A Nasty Marine. Lmao

[miclash1]

can i ask?

what the hell is a Dear Chili letter?

lmao!!!!

[Phantom Blooper]

what the hell is a Dear Chili letter?



It is a satirical look at the Dear Abby letters for dumb & stupid azz questions in the Poolee Forum.:evilgrin:

[thedrifter]

It is a satirical look at the Dear Abby letters for dumb & stupid azz questions in the Poolee Forum.:evilgrin:

Always to the point;) :D

Ellie

[Sgt Leprechaun]

Yep. LOL

[kaboom1371]

why do you feel he will be miserable? Because you don't want him in the Marines?

[SSgt Blue]

Assumptions are the mother of all what again????????? And when you assume it makes a what again, But what the hell do I know I’m just a Dumb Grunt…..

[thedrifter]

Locking down

These folks are long gone