Marriage in the Marine Corps

[mcneelyben]

Hello. My girlfriend recently shipped off to Parris Island, and I'm still a Poolee. We plan on getting married eventually, and I was wandering, since we will both be freakin Rough, Tough, Can't Get Enough, MARINES.......how does the Marine Corps handle marriage between enlisted Marines? Or is it even allowed? thanks.

[Phantom Blooper]

I, Poolee Showershoe, take you the United States Marine Corps to be my lawfully wedded life,
knowing in my heart that you will be
my constant friend,
my faithful partner in life,
and my one true love.
On this special day of arriving at the MCRD,
I will give to you
in the presence of God and all those in attendance at DEP my pledge&sacred promise to stay by your side as your faithful servant
in sickness and in health,
in joy and in sorrow, as well as
through the good times and the bad .
I further promise to love you without reservation,
honor and respect you, give you my 110% and
provide for your needs as best I can.
I will protect you from harm,
comfort you in times of distress,
grow with you in mind and spirit,
always be open and honest with you,
and cherish you for as long as we both shall live!!!!!!!!

:evilgrin:

[Cwalling]

So does that mean that your married the to the Corps first and your wife comes second?

[Phantom Blooper]

Yep!:evilgrin:

[Covey_Rider]

I'll tell you right now...the 2 of you will be spending plenty of time apart. As far as getting married...it is possible. There's red tape but it is possible.

[Phantom Blooper]

You get married...she is in the Marines....you go into the Marines. Yes it is possible as Sgt. Bulkyker as he married a WM and other Marines on this site can attest to it can work. It definitely will be hard...even married to a civilian spouse. You are separated for long periods of time..days to years.

Although you have a civil or religious contract to your spouse to love and cherish for the rest of your days on earth. You can get a annulment or divorce and you may have to pay alimony or child support and yes this can be a major setback or stressor in life. Hopefully divorce never happens and the union is sanctioned until death and beyond. Or if you so desire, one can marry or shack up with another.

You sign a contract with the Marine Corps and you are in the middle of a family function,Christmas dinner or any other scenario and you get a phone call from your Sgt at your command. You have to report to work...no if ,ands or buts. You may have less than 24hrs to be deployed. YOU are married to the Marine Corps for your 8 years and in most honorable Marines for life.YOU have to go. In your situation your girlfriend the same thing.


So yes you give your all...if it means a haircut instead of a CD, six-pack opt for the haircut. Your priorities as a Marine vice civilian will change.Things should be fine money wise if both of you are in the Marine Corps however this is an example of hardships.She will have the same commitments.

I wish you luck and there are posts in the Poolee Forum telling about fraternization and if you are married and knew each other prior to enlisting.

:evilgrin:

[killerinstinct]

They try to keep you together and either one of you will usually get a good TO spot from CMC in order to be on the same base.

But i'll tell you this of a my personal marriage. I got married at 21. But I did not give her the time she deserved as if naythign would happen it was my shop first. Needless to say we drifted apart when i got back from a deployment in 02. And it felt different so we divorced. It's funny how all you really need are your friends and the people you live and work with when deployed. For entertainment theres always a bks rat there for the physical stuff.

[Achped]

lol, or even other WM's for that matter :D

[Bulkyker]

I'm a marriage retread and 1st and second were both waves. When I got divorced from my first wife I asked her why she wanted a divorce and her response was..... you are never freaking here. She was at Coronado at the time and I was at Pendleton and I was always either in the field or on deployment. She had orders to Japan and I had orders to Quantico so we ended up calling it off. Marriage in the military can be the most severe of tests of your wedding vows. The second one is still working because I'm stationed in camp living room, but I have to tell you it sucks to pack up and move every 3 or 4 years, give up a good job and leave your friends behind, then start all over.

[Corndog]

I, Poolee Showershoe, take you the United States Marine Corps to be my lawfully wedded life,
knowing in my heart that you will be
my constant friend,
my faithful partner in life,
and my one true love.
On this special day of arriving at the MCRD,
I will give to you
in the presence of God and all those in attendance at DEP my pledge&sacred promise to stay by your side as your faithful servant
in sickness and in health,
in joy and in sorrow, as well as
through the good times and the bad .
I further promise to love you without reservation,
honor and respect you, give you my 110% and
provide for your needs as best I can.
I will protect you from harm,
comfort you in times of distress,
grow with you in mind and spirit,
always be open and honest with you,
and cherish you for as long as we both shall live!!!!!!!!

:evilgrin:

I will use these words verbatum!!! Ha ha ha. So will it be any easier since my guy is Reserves? Will he be able to follow me or something like that?

[Echo_Four_Bravo]

As long as you're stateside it will be a little easier. But divorce rates for junior enlisted Marines are really high. Be ready to work and be unhappy from time to time if you want to make it work.

[mcneelyben]

Another question if you please? While we are in our MOS schools; mine is Forward Observer, although I'm thinking of talking to my recruiter about changing my job, and her's is Marine Corps band, will either of us be able to use computers/cell phones/vehicles to, perhaps, communicate with one another or maybe even visit each other if distance permits? Also, what's the likelihood that we'll be stationed together after our schools? thanks.

[killerinstinct]

Another question if you please? While we are in our MOS schools; mine is Forward Observer, although I'm thinking of talking to my recruiter about changing my job, and her's is Marine Corps band, will either of us be able to use computers/cell phones/vehicles to, perhaps, communicate with one another or maybe even visit each other if distance permits? Also, what's the likelihood that we'll be stationed together after our schools? thanks.

Hi heres how it worked for us. I went to pensacola for my sea school. When we go there you were not allowed to drive until you have taken your drivers improvement course. Then we were not allowed to buy any POV's. Now this didnt exclude you from having a POV since alot of people mostly from the florida or who lived in an area where they could bring their cars down.

You will have internet access and phones thru ATT (sucks) and communication will be . Also while in school you can take leave you just have to make sure you dont have duty on the weekend etc.

There is usually a map of the distance you are able to go. For example on a 2 day weekend usually you can go like 210 mile (example not actual number) radius from your duty station, it increases the more time you have 72 96 etc. Now the time where you dont have a restriction is when you use an airplane. But first you should never NEVER buy your ticket before turning in your leave chit. Usually submit an itenerary with your leave chit. If you do take a plane you are generally allowed to fly all the way across the country if you wish.

As far as the band is concerned. they are every where you wont have to worry about being split up. Traditionally and 99% of the time you guys willl be put in the same vicinity or local area. But you never know

[Bulkyker]

I would like to add that Uncle Sam will work with dual military members as far as trying to get you both in the same location. Unit career planner can help with that. I'm lost on the right term. I think it is detailer. We called em the Jammer.
Short answer is yes you can usually work something out where you both go to the same location.