Ignorant & Nieve

[SnowPaint078]

So the other day I brought a friend to the recruiting office. And his girl friend got really mad at me (she happens to be one of my best friends). & She tells me this

"He is being so selfish he isn't thinking about how it affects me, I dont want to be away from him for 3 months and I will not support him joining the Marines or any military branch."
Now it gets better, they have been dating for about 2 yrs, & he is not a US Citizen, he is originally from Germany.
I told her this "your telling me he is being selfish for wanting to be a US Citizen & join the military for benefits and to be the best of the best, If you were from another country or realize what would happen with out your rights, I am sure you would think differently. Would you even date a soldier?"
She tells me this "No I couldn't deal with it."

To me that is the biggest slap in the face ever. Soldiers serve to protect everything you have, and you wont even get close to them in fear that you may lose them? & then you call them selfish? Its kind of funny to me because its so pathetic.

About a year back I asked a girl out, and she said "no because your going into the Marines, and I would hate to lose you."


I said "Its funny because you just did..." Now for everyone that reads this answer me this, Is every one this Ignorant & Nieve?

:mad:

[HurricaneRJ]

Not everyone. Where I'm from they all love "man" in uniform.

[Integrity57]

Not everyone is that ignorant, there have been countless strong women, and men, that have stood beside there loved ones while they served our country in all of the branches of the U.S. Armed Forces. The girl that you speak of just doesn't happen to be anything like those men or women.

[Books]

No. It's not ignorant nor naive... I don't know what you mean when you use those words. Being ignorant/naive would mean that the girl would be completely clueless as to how military relationships work. For the most part, she is right. It is a real strain, and they will be apart. I think what you mean to say is that she is selfish, and she would go screw tom, dick, and harry in a heartbeat the second her Marine gets on that plane. That's what she's worried about.

She understands the situation, but she is a moron. She doesn't have the dedication that Marine spouses have. This girl doesn't care and doesn't love, and therefore the sacrifice isn't worth it to her. Many in our country have the same view about the military. Is it stupid? Hell yes. Selfish? You bet. Infuriating? Yeah. But are the circumstances she describes valid? Yes, they are. If she were ignorant/naive she would be the opposite. She would think she could see her Marine every part of the day and visit him "at work" and chat on the cellphone whenever she feels like it... something along those lines would be ignorant/naive.

[hempstead56]

Yes I can def relate to this. I had the same response from a girl that stopped dating me because I enlisted. Look tell your friend that he needs to get ahead in life and do him. If getting ahead in life means not being with her so be it. If she really loved him she would support in in whatever he wants to do. Don't let her get to you. Trust me being a Marine has many "benefits" lol and like Hurricane said, where I am from also Women all love a "Man" in uniform, lol.

[USMC90]

I'd say she cares about her boyfriend and doesn't want to see anything bad happen him. Then again if she really cared about him she'd support what he wants to do. IMO It's better for them both to just break it off.

[SnowPaint078]

Yes I can def relate to this. I had the same response from a girl that stopped dating me because I enlisted. Look tell your friend that he needs to get ahead in life and do him. If getting ahead in life means not being with her so be it. If she really loved him she would support in in whatever he wants to do. Don't let her get to you. Trust me being a Marine has many "benefits" lol and like Hurricane said, where I am from also Women all love a "Man" in uniform, lol.

Thats what I told him, & thats also what I told her. but of course she replied "your just so biased your apart of the military and you are not in my situation so you dont know what it feels like."
She couldn't be more wrong. & its like I get what you mean but If you loved him wouldnt you support him?! .........well of course not because your selfish, and she tells me that I dont know how a relationship works. Haha makes me laugh

[SnowPaint078]

I'd say she cares about her boyfriend and doesn't want to see anything bad happen him. Then again if she really cared about him she'd support what he wants to do. IMO It's better for them both to just break it off.

Agreed. But they are both my friends so I refuse to get in the middle of their relationship, I'll listen to their issues w/ each other, but Im not going to really give my oppinion.

[hempstead56]

Just let him and her be but just remind him that a highschool relationship only lasts for so long but being a Marine and accomplishing your goals lasts forever.

[SnowPaint078]

Just let him and her be but just remind him that a highschool relationship only lasts for so long but being a Marine and accomplishing your goals lasts forever.

Well said but they are in college & I believe that would only work in a Marines scenario. I believe that if your really love some one you can make stuff work out even if its hard, but if you love them you wouldn't care. But if you earn a EGA, your goal is not just accomplished, but you are now apart of a brotherhood, a legacy, & history which will continue until the end of time. Love ends when you die I hate to say it.

[KittyRina]

On one hand, she's probably just scared... on the other hand, there are people who refuse to have anything to do with the Military, like my parents. Like the quote in my siggie says, some people just don't understand that freedom is NOT free.:iwo:

[SnowPaint078]

Not everyone. Where I'm from they all love "man" in uniform.

Ya love the idea of dating one but I am sure they probably wouldn't want to... As you can see Im a little bit bitter right now. It will take a little time for me to get over this but what ever, I'll deal with it, I suppose I have to, & In the end It is the mature thing to do and also improves the specific qualities in leadership, which you can never stop improving.

[TheBiggness]

LOL highschool relationships :sick: They're like a pair of shoes, 5 or 6 months you throw it away and get a new one.

[Qwarkeh]

LOL highschool relationships :sick: They're like a pair of shoes, 5 or 6 months you throw it away and get a new one.

And some only last a few days! Reminds me of celeberty match ups.

[SnowPaint078]

Well said but they are in college (In 2 different states) & I believe that would only work in a Marines scenario. I believe that if your really love some one you can make stuff work out even if its hard, but if you love them you wouldn't care. But if you earn a EGA, your goal is not just accomplished, but you are now apart of a brotherhood, a legacy, & history which will continue until the end of time. Love ends when you die I hate to say it.
They are not in highschool, but what you guys say is true ;)

[Books]

Maybe we should just sticky some pre-fab responses for these types of threads. They come up once a week. These and "how to attain honor guide in boot camp". Let's all say something profound (...) and compile it. :P

[bgsuwoody]

Or we could start using the search button, but that would jut be too easy :)...Love where your head is at though!

[killerinstinct]

it sjust as well the hot ones always leave and the only ones that stay are the fat bks rats

[kbs95125]

At least she didn't give him the clap.

Snow, if she won't support you or your friend/her boyfriend, let it go. She obviously has huge issues and won't be making it far in any relationship with an attitude like that. Besides, two states away? Yeah, they've already slept with other people. Him going to boot camp wouldn't change any part of her daily routine, except it would give her more time to sleep around since she wouldn't be calling your friend up to make excuses about why she didn't call after going out to the clubs, or that he "is really nice and a friend from class", which really means "we've slept together at least 6 times, and I've let him use your toothbrush in the morning" and then squeeze his nuts into oblivion and slap that leash on.


There are plenty of fish in the sea and I've got a case of dynamite.

[HurricaneRJ]

uts into oblivion and slap that leash on.


There are plenty of fish in the sea and I've got a case of dynamite.

Nice.