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thedrifter
10-11-06, 07:39 AM
October 10, 2006
Families get tips for dealing with combat stress

By Karen Jowers
Staff writer

Families still want more information about recognizing problems related to combat stress, when to get help and how to get it.

With about 15 percent to 20 percent of soldiers returning from Iraq and Afghanistan displaying some combat stress issues within 90 to 120 days, Army and Defense Department officials have been working to identify those issues and help soldiers.

At a family forum sponsored Tuesday in Washington at the annual conference of the Association of the United States Army, a participant said she had heard from women whose husbands had written them frequent love letters, saying they couldn’t wait to get home. Yet when the soldiers returned, they were withdrawn, and even left their wives in some cases.

Sylvia Kidd, director of family programs for AUSA, said families have told her they’ve gone to chaplains with concerns about their soldiers, and were told, “Give him some space.”

“But when the soldier has cleaned out the bank account and left, that may be too much space,” Kidd said.

Most chaplains know what to look for in terms of mental health issues, and know when to get that soldier or family member to another professional for help, one chaplain responded.

One resource for family members as well as soldiers is a program called “Battlemind.” During the 45-minute training, soldiers see a video with examples of behaviors, like a soldier snapping at his son who had asked him to shoot some hoops. The training also talks about issues such as using alcohol to go to sleep or to calm down.

It explains what behaviors are natural, and “gives permission for them to notice it’s becoming a problem,” said Army psychiatrist Col. Charles Milliken.

Milliken also encourages troops and their spouses to download the program — designed for them to watch together — at www.battlemind.org.

For those with questions who prefer to seek help outside the chain of command, Military OneSource provides someone to talk to 24 hours a day, toll-free, at (800) 342-9647; or online at www.militaryonesource.com.

Ellie

Momof2Marines
09-03-07, 01:09 PM
Unfortunately alot of these young men coming home refuse to admit they might have a problem. The trick is to convince them to seek the help they need. Cyndy

greensideout
01-14-08, 09:04 PM
Unfortunately alot of these young men coming home refuse to admit they might have a problem. The trick is to convince them to seek the help they need. Cyndy

---and the "help" will do what?

Momof2Marines
01-16-08, 11:21 AM
Sorry Greensideout, sounds like I've offended you. I know our country did not support our Viet Nam vets. As a Marine Mom, with a son who is an Iraq Veteran. I can see how he has changed. He will not discuss, any issues. I know he does talk about Iraq with his fellow Marines. I really don't know what help will do or if it will help at all.
Thank you for your comment.

Cyndy

Ladymimi
03-16-08, 02:45 PM
Hey my son as you know just came back..from the front.. and when they come back from the front.. they trust no one ..becouse they spend 7 months protecting their lifes..there camarads ..surviving ..and having adrenaline rice every singleday of there days over there.. bottyes get use to that ..is like pain pealls ..if you take one to get read of the pain ones in a wille is o.k. ..but if you use them every day ..3 for times a day to get read of what ever disconfort you botty may have you get addicted to it and then in the long run .. you need more dossasge ..!!! my point is having your adrenaline riece every day is being in stress and your hearth is pomping fast and fast everyday.. now ..they come home .. they do not know how to passify their hearth beats, how to focus and calm thier sistem down..!!! Runing is one ..!!

Marines tink we mothers and family ..do not understand what they go trew over there.. and only among them ..they talk about it ..!!! it is only trust ..they are laking of that at the moment .. !!! and I guess is necesary to let them know we will say noting or ask noting till they ready to talk ..!!! to let them know we care ..becouse ..we where there first in there life's and they trust us in the past ..!! noting to me is esse ..to me everiting is diferent and as he keep growing and growing ..I am just analizing my self first and my son .. I am staburn as a bull.. and I get frustraded of my son changes.. but as long as he doesent do anithing wrong to destroy hem self or others.. I will be supervising and gainig my sons trust again..I do not need to do dat .. but he doesent se me as hes mother any more.. I am a Civilian ..!!! I have the mentality of a Civilian..!!! so I will let hem know that I am hes Civilian mother ..and he cud trust me again...!!! Do not know how but I know how to read .. may not know how to right perfectly .. but I am learning .. and reading and leasining to others help me .. to help hem or just to stand behind and let hem be ..!! I whant a good relationship with my son so I have to fight back ..the demons and the conflicts ..they bring back ..!!! if I have to do anithing to help hem if is necesary if not .. then like he say do not showk me right now.. he is Bold as hell.. but ..!!! dat is who he is right now..he will bring hes sensitivness back again ..but right now ..he is bold..!!!! I am a mother and I am very sensitive to any bad answer .. and I tink and say ..you do not love me anymore ..!! and tings like dat .. I am a girl a mother and woman or from venus man are from mars ..!!!! and even if hes my son it aplyes to..!!! I do not know what I am going to do whit hes changes and hes boldness .. but I am not lossing my son..I stay .. and I will crye by my self and scream and ask for help ..!!!! and dat is all I am hable to do for now. this is my opinnion and I stand behind my son..no matter what .. we all doo .. like you say momof2marines :

There are many marine like hem ..but this one is mine ..!!!!

Thank you

Ladymimi

Phantom Blooper
03-17-08, 05:54 AM
Young man.....before you start correcting somebody else...square away yourself with your own grammatical errors.Not gramatical!


I know this isn't my place


Well Sherlock the Grammar.....if you know it's not your place why did you post? DUH!:evilgrin:

Riven37
05-20-08, 05:44 PM
Sorry Greensideout, sounds like I've offended you. I know our country did not support our Viet Nam vets. As a Marine Mom, with a son who is an Iraq Veteran. I can see how he has changed. He will not discuss, any issues. I know he does talk about Iraq with his fellow Marines. I really don't know what help will do or if it will help at all.
Thank you for your comment.

Cyndy


Cyndy, do you expect your son to open up to you the way he done before this war began. If your answer is yes, it will never happen. He is no longer that little boy you once knew. War changes all men that other's can't understand. The best you can do for your son is support him, love him, but ask no questions because its his memories not yours, and you don't have the right to those memories. Just be there for him as his mother.

Momof2Marines
05-23-08, 05:32 PM
You are right Riven37. I definately have supported, and will continue to support my son.
Thank you for your advice.

Cyndy
VPMM Randy and Jerry:usmc: