Have any imput on this situation?

[semperfi05m]

If you could help at all, please let me know. Well, here's my situation. I just graduated from boot last week, I'm home now until I have to report to MCT on the 28th. While I've been home, my girlfriend recieved a letter that she has been guaranteed acceptance into the Naval Academy if she completes her application with 1 last nomination. She's been applying for the Naval Academy and a Marine Corps ROTC scholarship for a while now. She's been interested in the military and thought about going enlisted, but I guess her parents really don't approve, and with the options that she has for the Naval Academy and an ROTC scholarship, I agree that this would be a great opportunity for her if she actually does get it. The only thing is, with me being enlisted and her being an officer..I know a relationship or marriage between us would not be allowed. I've heard that if you get married before commissioning, that's allowed, but I guess I was unsure of exactly how much time there is after graduating from USNA and actually being comissioned. You also can't be married while you're at USNA. We've talked about it a lot, I know I want to become a drill instructor first and then work my way up to an officer eventually, and she's still undecided whether she will stay in after 5 years or not, but I just want this to work out between us, has anyone ever experienced a situation like this? If you have please give me your imput because this really has been on my mind. Thanks
:flag: PFC Justin Blakemore

[Echo_Four_Bravo]

Relationships that exist prior to military obligation won't get you all in trouble. They will just have to make sure that you are not a part of the same chain of command.

Just for future reference, you don't "work your way up" to being an officer. You get a degree, apply to OCS, and get accepted. That or the Naval Academy. No other possibilities exist. If you plan on being on active duty and then becoming an officer you need to start working on your college classes as soon as possible, because it will take a while to get done.

[jinelson]

Pfc Blakemore welcome home again and congratulations Marine. Change your avitar to Pfc and I have requested that your membership status be upgraded to Marine.

Semper Fi

Jim

[CAR]

relationships while in the military are hard enough already with deployments, schedules, and commitment to the Corps. It takes a lot to keep it together. You being a enlisted and she an Officer, especially in a seperate service should not pose a problem being that you may never be under her command or chain of command. So no real worries there.

Now the hard part ... ya want truth here goes ..... Look to YOUR future first. You may love her now and you may love her 20 years from now BUT if that love is to last it will, despite any hurdle you place in it's path. She has a great opportunity for the Academy and quite frankly, would be foolish for her not to take it or chase it down. YOU on the other hand will being going in a completely different direction initially. The next year or so you will completely overcome with the demand of the Corps. She will be overrun by her demmands on her.

Just remember, it WILL BE EXTREMELY tough for BOTH of you to keep it going, NOT impossible just TOUGH. LOOK OUT FOR YOU FIRST! You only get a short time in you r life to be able to DO the things YOU want, do it. You won't regret it later. Good luck to you and to your lady. I hope it works out for you both, but at this young of an age don't sacrifice what you CAN DO for what you think COULD WORK.

[semperfi05m]

Thanks for the input. now i have a question if you could do it this way. My first turm is 4 years and she would just be getting done with the academy. If I was to waite and get maried to her after she became an officer then re-inlisted would that be aloud? Let me know if you can help.

[DWG]

The part about waiting is the first sense you've made so far. As CAR stated, you are both going to be a bit busy over the next few years. If it is TRUE LOVE, it will still be there in four years and you can study your options then-it's amazing the difference a little time makes. You're both still kids, ya got lots of time! Don't do something in haste that can cause your careers to suffer from now on. :)

[LDO Capt]

Relationships that exist prior to military obligation won't get you all in trouble. They will just have to make sure that you are not a part of the same chain of command.

Just for future reference, you don't "work your way up" to being an officer. You get a degree, apply to OCS, and get accepted. That or the Naval Academy. No other possibilities exist. If you plan on being on active duty and then becoming an officer you need to start working on your college classes as soon as possible, because it will take a while to get done.


Not quite right here Echo Four Bravo...I "worked my way up" to becoming an officer. I was a Gunnery Sergeant, then a Warrant Officer, and now a Captain. I have a degree, but am not required to have one, and I have never been to OCS. There are Warrant Officer and Limited Duty Officer (LDO) opportunities in the Marine Corps.

R/

Capt G

[Echo_Four_Bravo]

Yes sir, I totally didn't take LDO Marines into account. Even though one of the finest Officers of Marines that I was ever exposed to was a LDO Captain. My apologies for overlooking the rarest of the Mustang Officers.

[ggyoung]

One thing is always lurking out there. JODY

[DWG]

One thing is always lurking out there. JODY
]Being married is no protection against JODY. Just makes it harder to scrape a cheater off your soles.